Cynthia Bailey

The Real Housewives of Atlanta kicked off the premiere this week by diving right into the video of Peter Thomas that surfaced (a little too coincidentally) right as filming started for the new season.  Cynthia Bailey shares in her blog this week that the situation has been painful to deal with. 

Cynthia explained, “It was extremely difficult dealing with the video of Peter. No woman (or man for that matter) expects (or hopes) to see her or his spouse appear to be cheating or having an indiscretion in a video. Especially one that has gone viral! How would one prepare for this? I was confused, shocked, hurt, and humiliated at the same time. Then I just became pissed at Peter for his recklessness, inconsideration, and carelessness. Of course I let Peter have it. I was furious! Peter and I are in the public eye, so in addition to dealing with this personally, I had to deal with it publicly as well. I had to dig deep, and ask myself a lot of heavy questions about my relationship and whether or not it would survive.”  I’m not sure I’d call the reality blogs “going viral” but whatever…

On that whole “not finding Peter attractive” with his clothes off thing, she clarifies what she meant by that.  “When Peter and I first met, I was attracted to everything about him. However, his confidence really stood out. He was handsome, successful, funny, smart, and sexy. He owned all of it. I have always been more attracted to my husband’s mind than his body. When my sister Malorie asked me if I was still attracted to Peter with his clothes off, she was referring to him physically, not sexually. My honest answer was no.”

She continues, “For me, physical attraction and sexual attraction are two different subjects, and one has nothing to do with the other. At the time of Malorie’s visit, the video had just come out, we were dealing with the stress of other martial issues, and Peter had packed on some unwanted pounds. Is it possible to be sexually attracted to someone and not be physically attracted to them? Physical attraction is important in any marriage or relationship, but it is only one of many factors that will keep a healthy relationship together. I think men hold women to a much higher standard when it comes to physical attraction. Most women love from more of an emotional and spiritual connection that usually goes beyond the physical. This is an issue that a lot of women can relate to but are not comfortable talking about out loud.” 

Cynthia also shared why she decided to don a bikini to her eyewear party.  “I thought that since I was debuting my sunglasses, it would be fun to wear something that tied into a summer beach feeling. Also, this was my first big public outing with the girls since the video had gone viral, and I knew it was still the talk of the town. It was important for me to stand strong, be true to myself, and put all of my energy into my eyewear launch party, and not make it about my personal life. I think my outfit was a successful and fabulous distraction.” 

TELL US – DO YOU THINK PETER’S VIDEO WAS REALLY THE TALK OF THE TOWN?  DO YOU THINK IT WAS AS INNOCENT AS HE SAYS?

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