“I’ve never cheated on him, so I don’t exactly know what he means by that,” said Tamra, 42, in a new interview with iVillage. “And then verbal abuse. I’m so verbally abusing him in my head right now.”
Despite her marital drama and very public divorce, Tamra continues to stay positive. “I’m sure I’m going to go through many ups and downs with emotions, but right now I feel good,” she says. And what about dating in her near future? “There will be a time that I date, but right now I’m just focusing on my kids and trying to get settled in my new apartment and just waiting to see what happens next,” she says.
When asked about her on-and-off arch nemesis and costar, Gretchen Rossi, Tamra had the following to say, “I think so much has been said between the two of us that I don’t think we’ll ever be best friends, but we can be cordial to each other in social environments,” says Tamra, joking, “You know I don’t call her up and ask her, ‘Hey how you doing? You and Slade want to come over?’”
In another interview with UsWeekly, Tamra reveals she has some regrets when it comes to her family and how she handled things. Mostly over some of the things she said on the show. Tamra says, “When it comes to the family . . . [there are] maybe some thing I shouldn’t have said.”
Interestingly enough, tonight’s episode of the hit show will focus more on the couple’s creepy relationship. I came across the following story from the site – AbsurdtoSublime which details the extent the Bellinos went to in order to appear on the show and become famous. This allegedly came from a reliable source -
“Alexis and Jim did everything they could to get on this show. They bought a house from Jeana and befriended her. They bought a car from Simon and befriended him. Alexis joined Gretchen’s gym and befriended her. They watched the show every week since it’s been aired and tried to get as many connections as possible. I do have to say, it worked. Though it was expensive! Fancy houses and luxury cars aren’t cheap. Hope they feel it is worth it.”
Very interesting. There’s another story out about Jim Bellino’s past and businesses endeavors. The show simply lists Jim as being a business man with little mention of the exact type of businesses he operates. There have been numerous reports that Jim owns a pawn shop.
According to GossipList, Jim was indicted in 2000 by the Feds for counterfeit autographed sports memorabilia. A source posted the following -
“A James Carlos Bellino, who owned a business called Forensic Document Services, located at 1115 N. Tustin Ave., Orange, CA, was indicted by the Feds in 2000 (3:00-cr-03071-JM: USA v. Bellino) for conspiracy to commit mail fraud.
The accusations involved sales to federal agents of forged sports memorabilia, specifically, baseballs with forged Babe Ruth signatures. The government subsequently deferred prosecution. a short hand way of letting Bellino off without jail time if he paid restitution of almost $30,000, went on probation for a year, and got out of the sports memorabilia business.”
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Gretchen does not hold back as she tells the mag she suspects the Barneys impending divorce might be solely for publicity. “…I guess well have to see if it’s really true,” Gretchen tells OK! of Tamra’s divorce, “because I wouldn’t be surprised if we see them next year back together and this was a whole publicity stunt.”
Gretchen, however goes on to wish her co-star well, you know just in case the divorce is really real and stuff. “I think divorce is a horrible thing for anybody and I pray that her kids can make it through, but at the same time… But if it is real I hope that they can get through it, but I just hope they are not trying to fool the world,” Gretchen adds.
Gretchen, 32, has decided its better too keep her distance from the rest of the housewives with the exception of Alexis.
“I chose to keep positive people in my life that are uplifting and those girls, except Alexis, aren’t like that and I really don’t have an ill word to speak about them. They are who they are and their true colors show and I just don’t care to really talk one way or the other about them,” says Gretchen.
Critisism about her relationship with boyfriend Slade Smileyand his parenting skills, is something Gretchen does not understand.
“It’s been really frustrating lately because people have so many negative things to say about him and it’s hard for me because he is one of the most amazing men I have ever met,” Gretchen gushes to OK!, “And it bothers me that the women have a comment about his children or how he is as a father when they have never even seen him around his children and they don’t know anything about the situation. It’s very ignorant…”
When her new music career is not keeping her busy, Gretchen spends her free time working on her new beauty line – Gretchen Christine Beaute, and she also reveals her hopes of being a mom someday saying, “I want to have kids of my own!”
According to the OC Register, the housewife and her husband Frank Curtin have paid the overdue rent on their Aliso Viejo, CA home, thus avoiding another eviction on their $2595 a month rental home (the same one they can be seen living in on the show).
“They paid last month and they staved off the wolf,” said Steven Silverstein, attorney for the homeowner. “My client got her money so we stopped the eviction.”
The Real Housewives of Orange County’sTamra Barney appeared on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live Thursday night , during which she denied cheating on her husbandSimon Barney.
Host Andy Cohen read out loud a facebook message he received from Simon just hours before the show went on live. Simon’s controlling message to Andy is below -
“Please be kind to my wife tonight, she’s very fragile and easily rattled. Keep in mind that she will have to live and see whatever you air tonight for the rest of her life. Tamra’s a wonderful person with a good heart, I don’t want to see her hurt anymore. So for the sake of her and our children, be kind to her.”
Tamra’s reply was “Wow.” According to Tamra, she believes Simon was very nervous about what she might say on the show. Just moments after she denied being unfaithful, Simon sent Andy another message telling him to ask Tamra about the 200 phone calls she made to her ex-boyfriend.
Tamra admitted making calls to her ex boyfriend, but said he was just a friend. Tamra — who said she had been quiet to avoid making the separation “a public issue” or media “circus” — said she believed Simon accused her of cheating because he knew with her celebrity status, the story would spread like wildfire.
Towards the end of the show, Tamra also revealed Simon threatened her that their three children, ages 11, 9 and 4, would be watching.
As for what led to the divorce, Tamra said that after a New Year’s Eve fight between she and Simon, she decided to leave the couple’s home on a “trial separation” basis. She said she “had to leave,” as she couldn’t continue living in 2010 the way she did in 2009.
Tamra and Simon have been married for 11 years.
In my opinion, Simon just made himself look worse by his behavior on the show (the facebook message to Andy and texting Andy during the show to bring up Tamra’s ex). Tamra surprisingly did appear to take the high road when it came to him. I’m sure there are lots of negative things she could have said about Simon if she really wanted to. Last night’s show just confirmed that he is indeed a very controlling man.
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Simon, who took to hisblog last week to shed some light on the couple’s marital issues, however has a stern warning for the network. “This is a private matter and should be discussed in a court of law, not on a reality show,” said Simon. “My entire family and especially my children have paid a very dear price for the success of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County. If they choose to exploit my family at this difficult time, it would be disgusting.”
Tamra moved out of the couple’s house and into a two-bedroom apartment, leading Simon to file for divorce days later much to Tamra’s surprise according to sources. Simon has accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive and committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” Tamra has denied the accusations.
Tamra’s “arch nemesis” & costar Gretchen Rossi claims she was surprised to hear about the couple’s split. Here’s what Gretchen had to say about the Barney’s split on her blog -
“Well, the next subject is very interesting to me because I have a lot of questions when it comes to Tamra and Simon’s talk outside. Not because I care to talk about them, but because they care to talk about me. First, if what is being written in the press today is true about Simon filing for divorce then I am so very sad that Tamra and Simon could not work out their differences for their children’s sake. There were some pretty harsh accusations being made on Simon’s part about Tamra in those papers. I bring this up because I think in tonight’s episode when Simon is talking about how happy they are, it is obvious that Tamra does not feel the same way. I thought “poor guy he has no idea.” Then to hear Tamra say she “would leave him if it was just the two of them,” WOW! That was a reprehensible remark if you ask me, I would be so devastated if I heard my spouse say that about me on national TV. We never truly know what goes on behind closed doors now do we though. For a very long time now I have heard lots of things about their marriage and I have chosen to stay out of it and not comment because it was none of my business. The only thing I knew for sure was that things were a little off because I was CC’d on an e-mail last January from Simon to Tamra titled “Your BS and Lies.” It definitely made me question if their marriage was truly as solid as they tried to portray at times. No marriage is perfect but those were some pretty tough words to e-mail a spouse. I do believe that Simon loved Tamra almost to a fault and he tried to protect her, even from herself at times. From what I could see she would open her mouth about things without having all the facts and he would have to be behind her picking up the pieces. That to me is a man who stands by his woman, even when he knew she was wrong. Good on him for taking loyalty seriously.
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The issue being the drama that ensued during the last episode when Gretchen invited Lynne Curtin’s daughter Alexa on a shopping trip in an attempt to talk to her about her personal issues. Gretchen suspected Alexa might be depressed based on some of her comments and actions. This seemed to backfire as Alexa was taken back and did not feel comfortable opening up to Gretchen. Lynne also appeared to be upset as she did not feel Gretchen should get involved with her daughter’s personal issues. Considering how her other daughter, Raquel Curtinturned out, Lynne should perhaps be more open to others wanting to help her family, but that’s another story for a different day.
I blogged last week that I wasn’t sure whether or not Gretchen was sincere in her attempt to help Alexa. I suspected it might have been self serving. Well it turns out she might have actually had a legit reason for reaching out to Alexa, as it turns out Gretchen holds a degree in Psychology with a minor in Family Studies and Child Development to boot. Shocking right? More from Gretchen’s blog below -
“Next we see me reaching out to Alexa. Wow, how interesting to see this played out. First of all it barely shows what was truly discussed in that moment with Alexa and how much she opened up to me. What I do know is that I had heard her say on three different occasions that she was depressed and felt like she wanted to talk to someone. It was weighing on my heart and I decided to do something about it. Not because I think I am all knowing, but rather to be a responsible adult. I ALSO have a degree in Psychology and a minor in Family Studies and Child Development. I was trained through my schooling to be very aware of signs such as the ones Alexa was portraying and to not sit back and wait for the worst to happen but rather to be proactive and offer to listen.
I do believe I went about it the right way by first calling and ASKING Lynne if it was OK, and then letting her know that I was going to see if Alexa would open up a little more to me because I wasn’t her parent. I had told Lynne a couple of times I was worried about Alexa, but Lynne seemed to blow it off and I just figured she was the parent that didn’t want to see anything wrong. I had noticed her girls acting out by drinking and other sorts of behavior. I never once spoke an ill word to Alexa about Lynne or Frank and their ability as parents, even though I have my opinions about the way they choose to discipline their girls, and please do not be mistaken that I think I know how to raise a child because I do not have any of my own yet. I do however see many mentors out there able to change and help others simply by listening and caring, for example Oprah. I am not comparing myself to Oprah in any way, but I am saying that she does not have any children, but is constantly able to help children in need, young girls, teenagers, etc. by taking notice to their pain, hurt or signs of need. I don’t think you have the ability to be a good parent just because you pushed out a kid. I think it takes dedication, work, heartache, compassion and discipline in order to discipline your own kids. I only hope to be a good parent one day and I sincerely hope that if I have a child that is hurting or struggling that my dearest and closest friends might be able to point out or take notice when I am blind to it.
It was interesting to hear what Alexa had to say to her mom about me. Alexa specifically said to me at the store that “It’s hard cause sometimes I feel like there is no one there to talk to me,” but yet says something completely opposite to her mom and plays it off to Lynne that I was out of line? It was like they were in their own little world, and talking about stuff that never even happened. They said I was trying to talk to Alexa to take the pressure off of myself and make it about her … HUH?? What the heck are they talking about? I actually went out of my way to say I have been in Alexa’s position before and I made some poor choices because of it and I was trying to avoid the same happening to her. For Alexa to say one thing to me and then say another to her mom about the interaction was very hurtful, but at the same time I can imagine that a child won’t tell their parent how they really feel. I know that Lynne knew where my heart was with Alexa because Lynne and I talked in detail about it. I also don’t know who Alexa and Lynne think they are kidding, but when they say “they talk all the time” in the gym we know that is bull honky because two episodes earlier Alexa is complaining about their communication together and then tells a therapist that she can’t talk to her mom at all anymore! Seriously, who are they kidding? I am not sure why Lynne would say she’s not sure if she can trust me now, when I came to her first before I went to talk to Alexa. She and I have not seen eye-to-eye this season and you will probably see more of that to come in future episodes. I will always have a soft spot for Lynne, but this was a very disappointing rift in our friendship.”
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According to Radar, Lynne and her husband Frank Curtin have received an eviction notice for the home they are currently living in, making this their 3rd eviction in a span of 9 months!
Interestingly enough, the Curtins are apparently still living in the same house they were evicted from last year. Other media outlets reported them as moving out of that home; evidently they snuck back in when no one was looking. This 3rd eviction is in addition to a $1.2 million dollar judgment against them, and court records show that since 2000, Lynne and Frank, have had 5 unlawful detainers filed against them.
An insider from the Housewives franchise told Radaronline, “We are all perplexed at what Lynne does with her money, she’s making $90K this year for appearing on the show, making more than enough to afford her monthly rent. I guess they are professional squatters!”
Frank has also acknowledged experiencing some financial hardship with his construction business, “My business all went south and I have been trying to work my way out of it. In the last 4 years I have lost everything, and I went through some really hard times.” He continues, “This has been the worst year of my life.”
Let’s hope 2010 will be a better year for the Curtins.