The Real Housewives of Orange County’sTamra Barney appeared on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live Thursday night , during which she denied cheating on her husbandSimon Barney.
Host Andy Cohen read out loud a facebook message he received from Simon just hours before the show went on live. Simon’s controlling message to Andy is below -
“Please be kind to my wife tonight, she’s very fragile and easily rattled. Keep in mind that she will have to live and see whatever you air tonight for the rest of her life. Tamra’s a wonderful person with a good heart, I don’t want to see her hurt anymore. So for the sake of her and our children, be kind to her.”
Tamra’s reply was “Wow.” According to Tamra, she believes Simon was very nervous about what she might say on the show. Just moments after she denied being unfaithful, Simon sent Andy another message telling him to ask Tamra about the 200 phone calls she made to her ex-boyfriend.
Tamra admitted making calls to her ex boyfriend, but said he was just a friend. Tamra — who said she had been quiet to avoid making the separation “a public issue” or media “circus” — said she believed Simon accused her of cheating because he knew with her celebrity status, the story would spread like wildfire.
Towards the end of the show, Tamra also revealed Simon threatened her that their three children, ages 11, 9 and 4, would be watching.
As for what led to the divorce, Tamra said that after a New Year’s Eve fight between she and Simon, she decided to leave the couple’s home on a “trial separation” basis. She said she “had to leave,” as she couldn’t continue living in 2010 the way she did in 2009.
Tamra and Simon have been married for 11 years.
In my opinion, Simon just made himself look worse by his behavior on the show (the facebook message to Andy and texting Andy during the show to bring up Tamra’s ex). Tamra surprisingly did appear to take the high road when it came to him. I’m sure there are lots of negative things she could have said about Simon if she really wanted to. Last night’s show just confirmed that he is indeed a very controlling man.
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Simon, who took to hisblog last week to shed some light on the couple’s marital issues, however has a stern warning for the network. “This is a private matter and should be discussed in a court of law, not on a reality show,” said Simon. “My entire family and especially my children have paid a very dear price for the success of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County. If they choose to exploit my family at this difficult time, it would be disgusting.”
Tamra moved out of the couple’s house and into a two-bedroom apartment, leading Simon to file for divorce days later much to Tamra’s surprise according to sources. Simon has accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive and committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” Tamra has denied the accusations.
Tamra’s “arch nemesis” & costar Gretchen Rossi claims she was surprised to hear about the couple’s split. Here’s what Gretchen had to say about the Barney’s split on her blog -
“Well, the next subject is very interesting to me because I have a lot of questions when it comes to Tamra and Simon’s talk outside. Not because I care to talk about them, but because they care to talk about me. First, if what is being written in the press today is true about Simon filing for divorce then I am so very sad that Tamra and Simon could not work out their differences for their children’s sake. There were some pretty harsh accusations being made on Simon’s part about Tamra in those papers. I bring this up because I think in tonight’s episode when Simon is talking about how happy they are, it is obvious that Tamra does not feel the same way. I thought “poor guy he has no idea.” Then to hear Tamra say she “would leave him if it was just the two of them,” WOW! That was a reprehensible remark if you ask me, I would be so devastated if I heard my spouse say that about me on national TV. We never truly know what goes on behind closed doors now do we though. For a very long time now I have heard lots of things about their marriage and I have chosen to stay out of it and not comment because it was none of my business. The only thing I knew for sure was that things were a little off because I was CC’d on an e-mail last January from Simon to Tamra titled “Your BS and Lies.” It definitely made me question if their marriage was truly as solid as they tried to portray at times. No marriage is perfect but those were some pretty tough words to e-mail a spouse. I do believe that Simon loved Tamra almost to a fault and he tried to protect her, even from herself at times. From what I could see she would open her mouth about things without having all the facts and he would have to be behind her picking up the pieces. That to me is a man who stands by his woman, even when he knew she was wrong. Good on him for taking loyalty seriously.
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The issue being the drama that ensued during the last episode when Gretchen invited Lynne Curtin’s daughter Alexa on a shopping trip in an attempt to talk to her about her personal issues. Gretchen suspected Alexa might be depressed based on some of her comments and actions. This seemed to backfire as Alexa was taken back and did not feel comfortable opening up to Gretchen. Lynne also appeared to be upset as she did not feel Gretchen should get involved with her daughter’s personal issues. Considering how her other daughter, Raquel Curtinturned out, Lynne should perhaps be more open to others wanting to help her family, but that’s another story for a different day.
I blogged last week that I wasn’t sure whether or not Gretchen was sincere in her attempt to help Alexa. I suspected it might have been self serving. Well it turns out she might have actually had a legit reason for reaching out to Alexa, as it turns out Gretchen holds a degree in Psychology with a minor in Family Studies and Child Development to boot. Shocking right? More from Gretchen’s blog below -
“Next we see me reaching out to Alexa. Wow, how interesting to see this played out. First of all it barely shows what was truly discussed in that moment with Alexa and how much she opened up to me. What I do know is that I had heard her say on three different occasions that she was depressed and felt like she wanted to talk to someone. It was weighing on my heart and I decided to do something about it. Not because I think I am all knowing, but rather to be a responsible adult. I ALSO have a degree in Psychology and a minor in Family Studies and Child Development. I was trained through my schooling to be very aware of signs such as the ones Alexa was portraying and to not sit back and wait for the worst to happen but rather to be proactive and offer to listen.
I do believe I went about it the right way by first calling and ASKING Lynne if it was OK, and then letting her know that I was going to see if Alexa would open up a little more to me because I wasn’t her parent. I had told Lynne a couple of times I was worried about Alexa, but Lynne seemed to blow it off and I just figured she was the parent that didn’t want to see anything wrong. I had noticed her girls acting out by drinking and other sorts of behavior. I never once spoke an ill word to Alexa about Lynne or Frank and their ability as parents, even though I have my opinions about the way they choose to discipline their girls, and please do not be mistaken that I think I know how to raise a child because I do not have any of my own yet. I do however see many mentors out there able to change and help others simply by listening and caring, for example Oprah. I am not comparing myself to Oprah in any way, but I am saying that she does not have any children, but is constantly able to help children in need, young girls, teenagers, etc. by taking notice to their pain, hurt or signs of need. I don’t think you have the ability to be a good parent just because you pushed out a kid. I think it takes dedication, work, heartache, compassion and discipline in order to discipline your own kids. I only hope to be a good parent one day and I sincerely hope that if I have a child that is hurting or struggling that my dearest and closest friends might be able to point out or take notice when I am blind to it.
It was interesting to hear what Alexa had to say to her mom about me. Alexa specifically said to me at the store that “It’s hard cause sometimes I feel like there is no one there to talk to me,” but yet says something completely opposite to her mom and plays it off to Lynne that I was out of line? It was like they were in their own little world, and talking about stuff that never even happened. They said I was trying to talk to Alexa to take the pressure off of myself and make it about her … HUH?? What the heck are they talking about? I actually went out of my way to say I have been in Alexa’s position before and I made some poor choices because of it and I was trying to avoid the same happening to her. For Alexa to say one thing to me and then say another to her mom about the interaction was very hurtful, but at the same time I can imagine that a child won’t tell their parent how they really feel. I know that Lynne knew where my heart was with Alexa because Lynne and I talked in detail about it. I also don’t know who Alexa and Lynne think they are kidding, but when they say “they talk all the time” in the gym we know that is bull honky because two episodes earlier Alexa is complaining about their communication together and then tells a therapist that she can’t talk to her mom at all anymore! Seriously, who are they kidding? I am not sure why Lynne would say she’s not sure if she can trust me now, when I came to her first before I went to talk to Alexa. She and I have not seen eye-to-eye this season and you will probably see more of that to come in future episodes. I will always have a soft spot for Lynne, but this was a very disappointing rift in our friendship.”
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According to Radar, Lynne and her husband Frank Curtin have received an eviction notice for the home they are currently living in, making this their 3rd eviction in a span of 9 months!
Interestingly enough, the Curtins are apparently still living in the same house they were evicted from last year. Other media outlets reported them as moving out of that home; evidently they snuck back in when no one was looking. This 3rd eviction is in addition to a $1.2 million dollar judgment against them, and court records show that since 2000, Lynne and Frank, have had 5 unlawful detainers filed against them.
An insider from the Housewives franchise told Radaronline, “We are all perplexed at what Lynne does with her money, she’s making $90K this year for appearing on the show, making more than enough to afford her monthly rent. I guess they are professional squatters!”
Frank has also acknowledged experiencing some financial hardship with his construction business, “My business all went south and I have been trying to work my way out of it. In the last 4 years I have lost everything, and I went through some really hard times.” He continues, “This has been the worst year of my life.”
Let’s hope 2010 will be a better year for the Curtins.
Gretchen debuted her new song on Valentine in the Morning on Tuesday, and shockingly enough, she sounds decent. I was more than ready to pile her in the Kim Zolciakcategory, but she actually sounds very good.
Her first single release is called ‘Nothing Without You’ and she plans on donating the proceeds of the single sales to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, as well as the Jeff Beitzel Foundation – an organization she has created.
You can listen to Gretchen’s new song at this link.
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Alongside the duo was Slade’s son, Grayson Smiley, who has been fighting inoperable brain cancer since preschool. According to Bauer-Griffin, the couple first hit up a CVS Pharmacy and then grabbed hotdogs at Wienerschnitzel on January 10, 2010 in Los Angeles, California.
Slade has been accused in the past of failing to spend enough time with his son. Must say Gretchen and Slade are getting better at making their staged paparazzi photos look more “candid.”
While Tamra Barney has to wait a couple of more days to tell her side of the story on Bravo’s talk show – Watch What Happens this Thursday, her husband Simon Barney has taken to his Bravo blog to open up about the couple’s marital issues, which ultimately led to his filing for a divorce.
In his latest blog for Bravo, you get the feeling Simon was quite taken back by some of his wife’s comments on the Real Housewives of Orange County. It seems this week’s episode might have been the straw that broke the camel’s back. By the way, the stars of the show get to watch the episodes before it premiers on TV. Bravo sends them a tape ahead of time, so there’s no telling when Simon actually saw the last episode.
While divorce might be extreme, it’s quite easy to see where Simon’s coming from. A comment that Tamra made during this last episode shocked even me. She told her mother during their dinner together that she would have left Simon if not for the kids. I personally cringed hearing that and thought those were fighting words.
Though Tamra is not my favorite housewife by any means, I’ve always applauded her honesty in front of the cameras. But perhaps she was a bit too honest and didn’t think of the consequences of her words.
Some excepts from Simon’s blog below -
“Tamra has also made her choices in what she has said on the show this season about me, (her husband). My belief is you should never disparage your spouse to anyone for any reason (especially on national TV). All season long, I have been unpleasantly surprised by some of my wife’s comments and conversations about me. I have no idea what she says or has said on camera until it airs. If I’m not present, I don’t see these scenes until they air unless she tells me about it. And she never tells me about it. Hmmm. More about this to come…
The talk that Tamra and I had in our back yard was hard for me to watch. Our marriage is definitely not perfect, but then again, whose is? As I’ve already said, I can’t completely blame Vicki for this behavior. However I choose not to be around people that are not positive to my family and me. My wife seems to feel differently and always accommodates these kinds of people. She was not always like the way she is today. My wife has changed in the last few years. (I wonder why???) She is not the same girl I knew three years ago. I really don’t know her anymore. And it breaks my heart.
Next we see my really good friend Marcos and Tamra looking at houses. I only have one thing to say (again): “Don’t talk badly about your spouse, ever.” TV show or not. It just makes you look bad. For those who don’t know, Marcos is one of my closest friends. I had approached him regarding Tamra becoming his partner. I then had to convince Tamra to take this opportunity. So for all those people who see me as having an issue with my wife working, you are dead wrong. I welcome it if it is what she wants to do. I only had one concern. I just don’t want her to forget the most important job we have, raising our children.
The dinner with Tamra’s mom … HOW UGLY! Can I ever get a break this season considering I didn’t want to be on it this year? I really never knew my wife felt this way about me until I watched this episode. I guess I’m not the right man for her. This did remind me of a conversation on the first day of 2009 (January 1, 2009). Tamra and I were in Las Vegas the day after New Year’s Eve. She told me she knew she could get someone better looking, with more money, and who would let her do whatever she wants, regardless. But she was going to stay together for the kids. I was shocked, and I’m shocked now watching her at dinner with her mother, when she says, “If it wasn’t for the kids, I would leave him.”
Ouch! That really hurt! If this is true, she should have this conversation with me in private. I’m not sure any couple should stay together because of kids. It only does more damage to them. I guess I was under the impression that she was still in love with me as I am was with her. And sadly I had to find this out is no longer true on national TV. I guess she wanted to have the drama spotlight, rather than what’s best for our family and me. Have we really drifted that far apart in just a few years?
You don’t need to run me over with a truck to get your message across, honey! Of course it feels like a truck just ran over my heart and soul. Wow! What a fool I’ve been. Never thought to watch out within my own camp. “Et tu, Brute?”
Like I always say, “If it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.” But I think this one is going to hurt like I was being killed.
Sorry kids, I would give up my life and conquer the world for you. Just couldn’t triumph over celebrity and fame. Daddy loves you very much…”
And there you have it folks. At the end of the day, one can only hope these two will be able to work things out as they have three young children together.
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In response to the bombshell divorce papers filed by her husband yesterday, Tamra Barney is defending herself against allegations of infidelity.
Tamra’s husband, Simon Barney accused the Real Housewives of Orange County star of being unfaithful in the divorce papers he filed. Simon wrote: “Petitioner contends that Respondent has been verbally abusive and has committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.”
Tamra has now taken to her facebook page to deny the cheating allegations. “Thanks to everyone who understands and supports me,” she wrote. “For the record, all accusations are false.”
Vicki Gunvalson, who is still in shock over the split news, is also defending her costar by telling UsWeekly, “Wonder who he thinks she cheated with?” she said in an email. “Personally, I think if Tamra spoke to a man Simon would call it cheating. Tamra has 3 little kids. That’s all I care about is making sure they get through all of this.”
A rep for Bravo revealed that Tamra, 42, “is going to share her story first on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Show hosted by Andy Cohen, airing next Thursday at midnight.”
Last night’s episode of The OC Housewives also touched on the couple’s marital issues. Tamra spoke several times about being unhappy in her marriage, while Simon believes all is well. We also had Gretchen Rossi attempt to reach out to Lynne Curtin’s daughter, Alexa, whom she thought was depressed much to Lynne and Alexa’s dismay. Something about Gretchen trying to help Alexa came off as insincere and self serving to me, but perhaps I’m wrong. Vicki also renewed her wedding vows to husband of 15 years, Don Gunvalson.
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