This is in connection to a restraining order case Gretchen filed against Jay last year. She obtained a temporary restraining order against Jay but it was then dropped by a judge when Gretchen refused to show up to court for a follow up. Jay had asked for attorneys fees and costs.
Jay also filed a lawsuit against Gretchen for slander and libel and several other counts last week, just days before Bravo filmed the reunion show.
According to Jay, Gretchen has damaged his reputation by calling him a liar, thief ,and drunk. Jay claims he and Gretchen were a couple when she joined the Real Housewives of OC but for the show’s dramatic purposes she was linked to another man.
Gretchen also recently revealed on the show that though her deceased fiance, Jeff Beitzel, left her over $2 million in his will, she did not receive a penny because his estate was in debt of over $3 million.
In the lawsuit, Jay claims he and Gretchen began dating in 2008 and Gretchen told him that she was only a caregiver to the then terminally ill “ex-boyfriend friend, Jeff Beitzel.” Jay goes on to claim that over the next year, he and Gretchen were “a couple” and “vacationed together, went to marriage workshops together, attended each other’s family vacations and had each other’s names tattooed on their fingers.”
The lawsuit further claims that Gretchen was “intimately involved with Photoglou the entire time the show filmed Rossi’s first season.”
Jeff died of Cancer in September, 2008. Jay says he and Gretchen tattooed each other’s names on their fingers the following month and that he eventually moved into Rossi’s house.
Jay charges Gretchen with damaging his reputation by calling him a liar, a drunk and a thief and is demanding punitive damages in the lawsuit. The lawsuit charges Gretchen with spreading lies in published interviews, in emails to private individuals and members of the media. Other damaging lies allegedly spread by Gretchen, according to the court documents, include allegations that Jay threatened her life, stalked her, stole from her and acted irrationally. According to Jay, these acts damaged his personal and business reputation, he claims and he will seek punitive damages from Gretchen.
Jay states in the court docs: “In reality, Rossi denied the truth and embarked in what is nothing short of an obsessive and delusional crusade to destroy.” This is funny coming from a man who for whatever reason became obsessed with the world knowing he was seeing Gretchen. The same man who has emailed practically all major websites, blogs and news organizations, begging them to let him tell his “story,” and supplying/leaking out multiple nude and raunchy photos of a woman he alleges to be his ex girlfriend, even allegedly threatening to leak a sex tape of her.
Dear Jay, you are slimy, sleazy, greasy and obsessed. We all get it, Gretchen lied and continues to lie about her involvement with you. We’ve all seen the photos you leaked, yes you two were involved. Really we GET IT. You are now free to move on with your life, perhaps get a job, you know one that doesn’t involve you being a famewhore. Seriously, you are giving Jon Gosselin a run for his money during his famewhore hay-day, you know before the TLC injunction. Move on with your life, you have proven your point. Judging from the way you completely attempted to destroy the life and well being of someone you claim to be your ex fiance, I’m certain many women would love to give you a try.
In other Pot Calling the Kettle Black news, everybody’s favorite housewife – Tamra Barney had this little tidbit to say in her blog this weekend – “I swear Gretchen cant get enough of me. What the heck is this girl’s problem? It’s like she can’t go one episode without trying to knock me down.”
It doesn’t end there as Tamra then claims Gretchen only bought the bike to one up her - “We all know the ONLY reason she bought that bike was to UP me. She is so calculating in all her scenes, it is like she studied the prior season just to see how she can get a rise out of the rest of us. Little does she know we all laugh at her. All the ladies BUT Alexis are on to her BS.”
Very funny coming from a 42 year old mother of four who spent the entire last season bad mouthing Gretchen every chance she got. Who even went as far as to try to get Gretchen “naked wasted” in hopes Gretchen would embarrass herself (which she did) and perhaps spill some sordid secrets. Who then decided to befriend a middle aged strange male aka Jay Photoglou, who called her in the middle of the night, in hopes of getting some dirt about Gretchen. And of course even texted this man during last year’s reunion to continue to try to get dirt on a woman she barely knew.
Vicky was never a big fan of Gretchen either, but she never made it a point to try to get her naked wasted and I highly doubt Vicky would have ever entertained the likes of Jay. Sighs, just when I was starting to like you Tamra, you show just how extremely delusional you are. There’s a reason majority of fans dislike you. You seriously don’t know when to stop. Most people actually do believe Gretchen lied about a lot of things, but they continue to hate you because of your bizarre obsession with wanting to “out” her. Without even knowing it, your obsessive behavior towards the girl only ended up making her out to be more of a “victim,” which she definitely isn’t.
My take on the whole Gretchen issue - At the end of the day, I don’t dislike Gretchen. Is she my favorite housewife? No. Is she a liar? Yes. Is she a complete and total idiot for trusting Jay and taking nude photos for him? Yes, but at the end of the day, I still somewhat like her and can see why she is still a fan favorite despite her many many lies. My take on the whole Gretchen and Jeff issue has always been no one knows what goes in a relationship between two consenting adults. Some people have open relationships, and others give their partners permission to date others etc. Might it be immoral and unacceptable to you? Sure, but it does happen. I’m not saying this was the situation between Gretchen and Jeff’s relationship as I have no knowledge of that, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was.
With that being said, no one, not Tamra, had a right to try to judge and make it her life mission to reveal Gretchen’s lies because I’m pretty certain all the housewives on the show have told lies deliberately or lied by omission. I mean Tamra recently admitted to making lots of phone calls to her ex boyfriend, something Simon claimed was part of his reason for filing for divorce. Well interestingly enough, Tamra never revealed this little tidbit during filming. I mean Tamra Barney calling her ex excessively (Over 200 phone calls according to Simon) while on the brink of divorce would have surely made an excellent storyline. And I’m shocked and appalled that Tamra, someone who prides herself on honesty, and is so quick to call others out, would choose not to share this with Bravo cameras. Does this make Tamra a liar? a hypocrite? Perhaps but the point is all of these housewives have certain things they choose to share with us, and certain things they choose to hold dear.
So last night’s episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County brought us some rather tender moments between the mother and daughter duo -Lynne Curtinand her teenage daughter Alexa Curtin. And by tender, I mean a spoilt over dramatic teenager cursing out her mother on national television, while the mother ofcourse just sat there and took it.
Wowzers, did those conversations really take place between these two? I guess we should all have seen this coming as earlier on in the season, Alexa, 16, was shown asking her mother for beer while in the company of others. And then she didn’t show up for the family’s counseling session and of course missed her curfew. Alexa would later confide in her mom that the reason she missed the counseling session was because she was hung over. Sighs, 16 isn’t quite what it used to be.
Lynne took her daughter to the mall in hopes of trying to talk to her, but things took a quick turn for the worse when Alexa blew her fuse and called her mother a “b—-.” But it didn’t end there, Alexa sensing that she just crossed a major boundary with zero consequences, grew bigger balls and later told her mother to “Kiss my ass,” before walking away.
The interesting thing about this rebellious behavior from Alexa is her honesty in her interviews. The girl admitsshe would like some boundaries and discipline, and is pretty much begging to be punished and grounded by her parents.
What came next was Lynne’s drunken meltdown at Alexis Bellino’s get together. We see Gretchen and Tamra get along, and the main drama seems to be the one between Lynne and Gretchen, as it seems Lynne is still holding a major grudge regarding Gretchen’s attempt to talk to her daughter. Perhaps it’s time for Lynne to let that go and focus of being a parent to her children. I’m guessing she was so defensive because she KNOWS she is a crappy mother.
I love Gretchen’s comment – “Just because you pop a child out between your legs doesn’t give you the God-[given] right to know how to parent!” Yes you can’t really know what it’s like to be a parent until you are one and blah blah blah, but anyone with an IQ above 10 can see Lynne has dropped the ball on parenting her daughters.
I do agree with what the ladies told Lynne, that is it never too late to become a better parent. Hopefully Lynne has made a complete turnaround in that department. Having your daughter call you a bitch on national television should be rock bottom. In a way, I actually have a little sympathy for Alexa, she is the child in this relationship and has obviously received no discipline or guidance from her parents, and has even told them on more than one occasion that she would like more boundaries and discipline.
TELL US – WHAT WERE YOUR THOUGHTS ON LAST NIGHT’S EPISODE? ON LYNNE AND ALEXA’SDRAMA?
Apparently, Heidi Montag’smom is mortified that her 23 year old daughter underwent 10 cosmetic surgery procedures in one day to look like a completely different person. The Hills’star even revealed to PEOPLE magazine that she kept her surgery plans secret from friends and family.
Nine weeks after her drastic transformation, Heidi claims she is now dealing with the horrified reaction of the general public her mom, Darlene Egelhoff.
“I still can’t believe I’m 23 and mom is reacting this way,” says Heidi. “I’m nervous to go home and face her – especially with cameras rolling.” Heidi herself A source close to the family tells PEOPLE that Heidi’s mom Darlene “is horrified and having a total breakdown. She can’t wait to confront Heidi when she goes home.”
It seems Heidi’s mom will be getting her wish soon as “Heidi is planning to head back to her small town of Crested Butte very soon,” says the source. And not to worry as MTV cameras will be there to capture every tender moment for the Hills.
In other news, Bravo housewives are also sharing their opinions on Heidi’s new face and body.
Gretchen Rossi had the following to say – “She looks like a Cat Woman now! The one eyebrow just goes so far up now. The eye looks weird to me now.” The OC star star told RadarOnline. “She didn’t need it. She was beautiful. She was really such a pretty girl. What is she 23 or 24?”
Alexis McCord of the NYC Housewives also had the following to say about Heidi – “It does not set a good example to her fans,” she told Radar. “One thing I have learned from doing this show is that people really do judge or commend you.” She continues, “And there are a lot of young impressionable women that watch her show. It is terrible to think that a young woman with body issues could be watching it, see her transformation and commend her thinking that having surgery is the answer.”
“I’ve never cheated on him, so I don’t exactly know what he means by that,” said Tamra, 42, in a new interview with iVillage. “And then verbal abuse. I’m so verbally abusing him in my head right now.”
Despite her marital drama and very public divorce, Tamra continues to stay positive. “I’m sure I’m going to go through many ups and downs with emotions, but right now I feel good,” she says. And what about dating in her near future? “There will be a time that I date, but right now I’m just focusing on my kids and trying to get settled in my new apartment and just waiting to see what happens next,” she says.
When asked about her on-and-off arch nemesis and costar, Gretchen Rossi, Tamra had the following to say, “I think so much has been said between the two of us that I don’t think we’ll ever be best friends, but we can be cordial to each other in social environments,” says Tamra, joking, “You know I don’t call her up and ask her, ‘Hey how you doing? You and Slade want to come over?’”
In another interview with UsWeekly, Tamra reveals she has some regrets when it comes to her family and how she handled things. Mostly over some of the things she said on the show. Tamra says, “When it comes to the family . . . [there are] maybe some thing I shouldn’t have said.”
Gretchen does not hold back as she tells the mag she suspects the Barneys impending divorce might be solely for publicity. “…I guess well have to see if it’s really true,” Gretchen tells OK! of Tamra’s divorce, “because I wouldn’t be surprised if we see them next year back together and this was a whole publicity stunt.”
Gretchen, however goes on to wish her co-star well, you know just in case the divorce is really real and stuff. “I think divorce is a horrible thing for anybody and I pray that her kids can make it through, but at the same time… But if it is real I hope that they can get through it, but I just hope they are not trying to fool the world,” Gretchen adds.
Gretchen, 32, has decided its better too keep her distance from the rest of the housewives with the exception of Alexis.
“I chose to keep positive people in my life that are uplifting and those girls, except Alexis, aren’t like that and I really don’t have an ill word to speak about them. They are who they are and their true colors show and I just don’t care to really talk one way or the other about them,” says Gretchen.
Critisism about her relationship with boyfriend Slade Smileyand his parenting skills, is something Gretchen does not understand.
“It’s been really frustrating lately because people have so many negative things to say about him and it’s hard for me because he is one of the most amazing men I have ever met,” Gretchen gushes to OK!, “And it bothers me that the women have a comment about his children or how he is as a father when they have never even seen him around his children and they don’t know anything about the situation. It’s very ignorant…”
When her new music career is not keeping her busy, Gretchen spends her free time working on her new beauty line – Gretchen Christine Beaute, and she also reveals her hopes of being a mom someday saying, “I want to have kids of my own!”
Simon, who took to hisblog last week to shed some light on the couple’s marital issues, however has a stern warning for the network. “This is a private matter and should be discussed in a court of law, not on a reality show,” said Simon. “My entire family and especially my children have paid a very dear price for the success of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County. If they choose to exploit my family at this difficult time, it would be disgusting.”
Tamra moved out of the couple’s house and into a two-bedroom apartment, leading Simon to file for divorce days later much to Tamra’s surprise according to sources. Simon has accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive and committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” Tamra has denied the accusations.
Tamra’s “arch nemesis” & costar Gretchen Rossi claims she was surprised to hear about the couple’s split. Here’s what Gretchen had to say about the Barney’s split on her blog -
“Well, the next subject is very interesting to me because I have a lot of questions when it comes to Tamra and Simon’s talk outside. Not because I care to talk about them, but because they care to talk about me. First, if what is being written in the press today is true about Simon filing for divorce then I am so very sad that Tamra and Simon could not work out their differences for their children’s sake. There were some pretty harsh accusations being made on Simon’s part about Tamra in those papers. I bring this up because I think in tonight’s episode when Simon is talking about how happy they are, it is obvious that Tamra does not feel the same way. I thought “poor guy he has no idea.” Then to hear Tamra say she “would leave him if it was just the two of them,” WOW! That was a reprehensible remark if you ask me, I would be so devastated if I heard my spouse say that about me on national TV. We never truly know what goes on behind closed doors now do we though. For a very long time now I have heard lots of things about their marriage and I have chosen to stay out of it and not comment because it was none of my business. The only thing I knew for sure was that things were a little off because I was CC’d on an e-mail last January from Simon to Tamra titled “Your BS and Lies.” It definitely made me question if their marriage was truly as solid as they tried to portray at times. No marriage is perfect but those were some pretty tough words to e-mail a spouse. I do believe that Simon loved Tamra almost to a fault and he tried to protect her, even from herself at times. From what I could see she would open her mouth about things without having all the facts and he would have to be behind her picking up the pieces. That to me is a man who stands by his woman, even when he knew she was wrong. Good on him for taking loyalty seriously.
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The issue being the drama that ensued during the last episode when Gretchen invited Lynne Curtin’s daughter Alexa on a shopping trip in an attempt to talk to her about her personal issues. Gretchen suspected Alexa might be depressed based on some of her comments and actions. This seemed to backfire as Alexa was taken back and did not feel comfortable opening up to Gretchen. Lynne also appeared to be upset as she did not feel Gretchen should get involved with her daughter’s personal issues. Considering how her other daughter, Raquel Curtinturned out, Lynne should perhaps be more open to others wanting to help her family, but that’s another story for a different day.
I blogged last week that I wasn’t sure whether or not Gretchen was sincere in her attempt to help Alexa. I suspected it might have been self serving. Well it turns out she might have actually had a legit reason for reaching out to Alexa, as it turns out Gretchen holds a degree in Psychology with a minor in Family Studies and Child Development to boot. Shocking right? More from Gretchen’s blog below -
“Next we see me reaching out to Alexa. Wow, how interesting to see this played out. First of all it barely shows what was truly discussed in that moment with Alexa and how much she opened up to me. What I do know is that I had heard her say on three different occasions that she was depressed and felt like she wanted to talk to someone. It was weighing on my heart and I decided to do something about it. Not because I think I am all knowing, but rather to be a responsible adult. I ALSO have a degree in Psychology and a minor in Family Studies and Child Development. I was trained through my schooling to be very aware of signs such as the ones Alexa was portraying and to not sit back and wait for the worst to happen but rather to be proactive and offer to listen.
I do believe I went about it the right way by first calling and ASKING Lynne if it was OK, and then letting her know that I was going to see if Alexa would open up a little more to me because I wasn’t her parent. I had told Lynne a couple of times I was worried about Alexa, but Lynne seemed to blow it off and I just figured she was the parent that didn’t want to see anything wrong. I had noticed her girls acting out by drinking and other sorts of behavior. I never once spoke an ill word to Alexa about Lynne or Frank and their ability as parents, even though I have my opinions about the way they choose to discipline their girls, and please do not be mistaken that I think I know how to raise a child because I do not have any of my own yet. I do however see many mentors out there able to change and help others simply by listening and caring, for example Oprah. I am not comparing myself to Oprah in any way, but I am saying that she does not have any children, but is constantly able to help children in need, young girls, teenagers, etc. by taking notice to their pain, hurt or signs of need. I don’t think you have the ability to be a good parent just because you pushed out a kid. I think it takes dedication, work, heartache, compassion and discipline in order to discipline your own kids. I only hope to be a good parent one day and I sincerely hope that if I have a child that is hurting or struggling that my dearest and closest friends might be able to point out or take notice when I am blind to it.
It was interesting to hear what Alexa had to say to her mom about me. Alexa specifically said to me at the store that “It’s hard cause sometimes I feel like there is no one there to talk to me,” but yet says something completely opposite to her mom and plays it off to Lynne that I was out of line? It was like they were in their own little world, and talking about stuff that never even happened. They said I was trying to talk to Alexa to take the pressure off of myself and make it about her … HUH?? What the heck are they talking about? I actually went out of my way to say I have been in Alexa’s position before and I made some poor choices because of it and I was trying to avoid the same happening to her. For Alexa to say one thing to me and then say another to her mom about the interaction was very hurtful, but at the same time I can imagine that a child won’t tell their parent how they really feel. I know that Lynne knew where my heart was with Alexa because Lynne and I talked in detail about it. I also don’t know who Alexa and Lynne think they are kidding, but when they say “they talk all the time” in the gym we know that is bull honky because two episodes earlier Alexa is complaining about their communication together and then tells a therapist that she can’t talk to her mom at all anymore! Seriously, who are they kidding? I am not sure why Lynne would say she’s not sure if she can trust me now, when I came to her first before I went to talk to Alexa. She and I have not seen eye-to-eye this season and you will probably see more of that to come in future episodes. I will always have a soft spot for Lynne, but this was a very disappointing rift in our friendship.”
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