“I’ve never cheated on him, so I don’t exactly know what he means by that,” said Tamra, 42, in a new interview with iVillage. “And then verbal abuse. I’m so verbally abusing him in my head right now.”
Despite her marital drama and very public divorce, Tamra continues to stay positive. “I’m sure I’m going to go through many ups and downs with emotions, but right now I feel good,” she says. And what about dating in her near future? “There will be a time that I date, but right now I’m just focusing on my kids and trying to get settled in my new apartment and just waiting to see what happens next,” she says.
When asked about her on-and-off arch nemesis and costar, Gretchen Rossi, Tamra had the following to say, “I think so much has been said between the two of us that I don’t think we’ll ever be best friends, but we can be cordial to each other in social environments,” says Tamra, joking, “You know I don’t call her up and ask her, ‘Hey how you doing? You and Slade want to come over?’”
In another interview with UsWeekly, Tamra reveals she has some regrets when it comes to her family and how she handled things. Mostly over some of the things she said on the show. Tamra says, “When it comes to the family . . . [there are] maybe some thing I shouldn’t have said.”
Gretchen does not hold back as she tells the mag she suspects the Barneys impending divorce might be solely for publicity. “…I guess well have to see if it’s really true,” Gretchen tells OK! of Tamra’s divorce, “because I wouldn’t be surprised if we see them next year back together and this was a whole publicity stunt.”
Gretchen, however goes on to wish her co-star well, you know just in case the divorce is really real and stuff. “I think divorce is a horrible thing for anybody and I pray that her kids can make it through, but at the same time… But if it is real I hope that they can get through it, but I just hope they are not trying to fool the world,” Gretchen adds.
Gretchen, 32, has decided its better too keep her distance from the rest of the housewives with the exception of Alexis.
“I chose to keep positive people in my life that are uplifting and those girls, except Alexis, aren’t like that and I really don’t have an ill word to speak about them. They are who they are and their true colors show and I just don’t care to really talk one way or the other about them,” says Gretchen.
Critisism about her relationship with boyfriend Slade Smileyand his parenting skills, is something Gretchen does not understand.
“It’s been really frustrating lately because people have so many negative things to say about him and it’s hard for me because he is one of the most amazing men I have ever met,” Gretchen gushes to OK!, “And it bothers me that the women have a comment about his children or how he is as a father when they have never even seen him around his children and they don’t know anything about the situation. It’s very ignorant…”
When her new music career is not keeping her busy, Gretchen spends her free time working on her new beauty line – Gretchen Christine Beaute, and she also reveals her hopes of being a mom someday saying, “I want to have kids of my own!”
Simon, who took to hisblog last week to shed some light on the couple’s marital issues, however has a stern warning for the network. “This is a private matter and should be discussed in a court of law, not on a reality show,” said Simon. “My entire family and especially my children have paid a very dear price for the success of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County. If they choose to exploit my family at this difficult time, it would be disgusting.”
Tamra moved out of the couple’s house and into a two-bedroom apartment, leading Simon to file for divorce days later much to Tamra’s surprise according to sources. Simon has accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive and committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” Tamra has denied the accusations.
Tamra’s “arch nemesis” & costar Gretchen Rossi claims she was surprised to hear about the couple’s split. Here’s what Gretchen had to say about the Barney’s split on her blog -
“Well, the next subject is very interesting to me because I have a lot of questions when it comes to Tamra and Simon’s talk outside. Not because I care to talk about them, but because they care to talk about me. First, if what is being written in the press today is true about Simon filing for divorce then I am so very sad that Tamra and Simon could not work out their differences for their children’s sake. There were some pretty harsh accusations being made on Simon’s part about Tamra in those papers. I bring this up because I think in tonight’s episode when Simon is talking about how happy they are, it is obvious that Tamra does not feel the same way. I thought “poor guy he has no idea.” Then to hear Tamra say she “would leave him if it was just the two of them,” WOW! That was a reprehensible remark if you ask me, I would be so devastated if I heard my spouse say that about me on national TV. We never truly know what goes on behind closed doors now do we though. For a very long time now I have heard lots of things about their marriage and I have chosen to stay out of it and not comment because it was none of my business. The only thing I knew for sure was that things were a little off because I was CC’d on an e-mail last January from Simon to Tamra titled “Your BS and Lies.” It definitely made me question if their marriage was truly as solid as they tried to portray at times. No marriage is perfect but those were some pretty tough words to e-mail a spouse. I do believe that Simon loved Tamra almost to a fault and he tried to protect her, even from herself at times. From what I could see she would open her mouth about things without having all the facts and he would have to be behind her picking up the pieces. That to me is a man who stands by his woman, even when he knew she was wrong. Good on him for taking loyalty seriously.
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The issue being the drama that ensued during the last episode when Gretchen invited Lynne Curtin’s daughter Alexa on a shopping trip in an attempt to talk to her about her personal issues. Gretchen suspected Alexa might be depressed based on some of her comments and actions. This seemed to backfire as Alexa was taken back and did not feel comfortable opening up to Gretchen. Lynne also appeared to be upset as she did not feel Gretchen should get involved with her daughter’s personal issues. Considering how her other daughter, Raquel Curtinturned out, Lynne should perhaps be more open to others wanting to help her family, but that’s another story for a different day.
I blogged last week that I wasn’t sure whether or not Gretchen was sincere in her attempt to help Alexa. I suspected it might have been self serving. Well it turns out she might have actually had a legit reason for reaching out to Alexa, as it turns out Gretchen holds a degree in Psychology with a minor in Family Studies and Child Development to boot. Shocking right? More from Gretchen’s blog below -
“Next we see me reaching out to Alexa. Wow, how interesting to see this played out. First of all it barely shows what was truly discussed in that moment with Alexa and how much she opened up to me. What I do know is that I had heard her say on three different occasions that she was depressed and felt like she wanted to talk to someone. It was weighing on my heart and I decided to do something about it. Not because I think I am all knowing, but rather to be a responsible adult. I ALSO have a degree in Psychology and a minor in Family Studies and Child Development. I was trained through my schooling to be very aware of signs such as the ones Alexa was portraying and to not sit back and wait for the worst to happen but rather to be proactive and offer to listen.
I do believe I went about it the right way by first calling and ASKING Lynne if it was OK, and then letting her know that I was going to see if Alexa would open up a little more to me because I wasn’t her parent. I had told Lynne a couple of times I was worried about Alexa, but Lynne seemed to blow it off and I just figured she was the parent that didn’t want to see anything wrong. I had noticed her girls acting out by drinking and other sorts of behavior. I never once spoke an ill word to Alexa about Lynne or Frank and their ability as parents, even though I have my opinions about the way they choose to discipline their girls, and please do not be mistaken that I think I know how to raise a child because I do not have any of my own yet. I do however see many mentors out there able to change and help others simply by listening and caring, for example Oprah. I am not comparing myself to Oprah in any way, but I am saying that she does not have any children, but is constantly able to help children in need, young girls, teenagers, etc. by taking notice to their pain, hurt or signs of need. I don’t think you have the ability to be a good parent just because you pushed out a kid. I think it takes dedication, work, heartache, compassion and discipline in order to discipline your own kids. I only hope to be a good parent one day and I sincerely hope that if I have a child that is hurting or struggling that my dearest and closest friends might be able to point out or take notice when I am blind to it.
It was interesting to hear what Alexa had to say to her mom about me. Alexa specifically said to me at the store that “It’s hard cause sometimes I feel like there is no one there to talk to me,” but yet says something completely opposite to her mom and plays it off to Lynne that I was out of line? It was like they were in their own little world, and talking about stuff that never even happened. They said I was trying to talk to Alexa to take the pressure off of myself and make it about her … HUH?? What the heck are they talking about? I actually went out of my way to say I have been in Alexa’s position before and I made some poor choices because of it and I was trying to avoid the same happening to her. For Alexa to say one thing to me and then say another to her mom about the interaction was very hurtful, but at the same time I can imagine that a child won’t tell their parent how they really feel. I know that Lynne knew where my heart was with Alexa because Lynne and I talked in detail about it. I also don’t know who Alexa and Lynne think they are kidding, but when they say “they talk all the time” in the gym we know that is bull honky because two episodes earlier Alexa is complaining about their communication together and then tells a therapist that she can’t talk to her mom at all anymore! Seriously, who are they kidding? I am not sure why Lynne would say she’s not sure if she can trust me now, when I came to her first before I went to talk to Alexa. She and I have not seen eye-to-eye this season and you will probably see more of that to come in future episodes. I will always have a soft spot for Lynne, but this was a very disappointing rift in our friendship.”
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Gretchen debuted her new song on Valentine in the Morning on Tuesday, and shockingly enough, she sounds decent. I was more than ready to pile her in the Kim Zolciakcategory, but she actually sounds very good.
Her first single release is called ‘Nothing Without You’ and she plans on donating the proceeds of the single sales to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, as well as the Jeff Beitzel Foundation – an organization she has created.
You can listen to Gretchen’s new song at this link.
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Alongside the duo was Slade’s son, Grayson Smiley, who has been fighting inoperable brain cancer since preschool. According to Bauer-Griffin, the couple first hit up a CVS Pharmacy and then grabbed hotdogs at Wienerschnitzel on January 10, 2010 in Los Angeles, California.
Slade has been accused in the past of failing to spend enough time with his son. Must say Gretchen and Slade are getting better at making their staged paparazzi photos look more “candid.”
In response to the bombshell divorce papers filed by her husband yesterday, Tamra Barney is defending herself against allegations of infidelity.
Tamra’s husband, Simon Barney accused the Real Housewives of Orange County star of being unfaithful in the divorce papers he filed. Simon wrote: “Petitioner contends that Respondent has been verbally abusive and has committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.”
Tamra has now taken to her facebook page to deny the cheating allegations. “Thanks to everyone who understands and supports me,” she wrote. “For the record, all accusations are false.”
Vicki Gunvalson, who is still in shock over the split news, is also defending her costar by telling UsWeekly, “Wonder who he thinks she cheated with?” she said in an email. “Personally, I think if Tamra spoke to a man Simon would call it cheating. Tamra has 3 little kids. That’s all I care about is making sure they get through all of this.”
A rep for Bravo revealed that Tamra, 42, “is going to share her story first on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Show hosted by Andy Cohen, airing next Thursday at midnight.”
Last night’s episode of The OC Housewives also touched on the couple’s marital issues. Tamra spoke several times about being unhappy in her marriage, while Simon believes all is well. We also had Gretchen Rossi attempt to reach out to Lynne Curtin’s daughter, Alexa, whom she thought was depressed much to Lynne and Alexa’s dismay. Something about Gretchen trying to help Alexa came off as insincere and self serving to me, but perhaps I’m wrong. Vicki also renewed her wedding vows to husband of 15 years, Don Gunvalson.
TELL US – DO YOU THINK TAMRA CHEATED? WHAT WERE YOUR THOUGHTS ON LAST NIGHT’S EPISODE? WAS GRETCHEN WRONG FOR APPROACHING ALEXIS THE WAY SHE DID?
Even more shocking? Simon is accusing his wife of infidelity. This is quite ironic as tonight’s episode of The Real Housewives of OC deals with the couple’s marital troubles.
In the divorce papers Simon wrote: “Petitioner contends that Respondent has been verbally abusive and has committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” According to a source close to the couple, Tamra reportedly moved out of their million dollar home earlier this week and into a two-bedroom apartment.
Simon and Tamra have been married for 11 years. They have three children together in addition to Tamra’s son from a previous marriage. “Simon has simply had enough,” the source said. “The show changed her.” The source adds that though they had been having marital problems for the past couple of years, Tamra did not know that Simon was filing divorce papers, even after she moved out of their home.
It is interesting to see Simon accuse his wife of being unfaithful as viewers know Tamra has been very vocal and critical of fellow cast member Gretchen Rossi, claiming Gretchen cheated on former fiancé Jeff Beitzel.
TELL US – WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS? ARE YOU SURPRISED?
UPDATE: A rep for Bravo tells UsMagazine that Tamra has “no comment” at this time . She will however be opening up next week on Bravo. “She is going to share her story first on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Show hosted by Andy Cohen, airing next Thursday at midnight.”