Jennifer Lopez is pushing back on the noise again, and the timing matters. At the Los Angeles Times actresses’ roundtable, the singer spoke about the scrutiny surrounding her personal life, and that still stings.
Yet J.Lo also framed her coping playbook as something she learned over decades. Moreover, she credited early grounding from her parents and steady work focus. Consequently, the “Kiss of the Spider Woman” star set boundaries while acknowledging how the cycle keeps returning.
Jennifer Lopez says people don’t get her
As per the PEOPLE report dated December 16, 2025, Lopez addressed the question directly. When Gwyneth Paltrow asked JLO about her opinion, she said, “From the very beginning, for whatever reason, I’ve been a lightning rod for nice things and a lot of negativity.”
“The Wedding Planner” actress added further, “It’s hard because you say to yourself, ‘These people don’t get me.’” Then she added, “Then all of a sudden they do.” She continued, “And then they don’t again.”
Lopez explained how she re-centers. She affirms herself, “I would always say, ‘I know who I am.’ I’m a good person. I know what I’m doing. People wouldn’t hire me if I wasn’t good at what I do.”
The singer-actor further described her nightly checklist. She said, “I did good today.” She added, “I was a good person.” And added, “I was kind to people.” Then she said, “I worked really hard.” Finally, she said, “I’m a good mom.”
Contextually, the table also featured Gwyneth Paltrow and Sydney Sweeney. Therefore, Lopez’s answer landed from a veteran’s perspective. Moreover, she had discussed these tradeoffs before.
Earlier, she told host Howard Stern, “There is a compromise.” She also said, “There is a tradeoff in certain ways….you have to learn how to navigate your personal life, and my personal life has suffered at times because of that.” Later, she added, “You have to change your behavior.”
Nevertheless, Lopez kept the emphasis on craft. She agreed with Sweeney that loud commentary is “outside noise.” Consequently, she said the goal is to block it out and work. Additionally, she pointed to her parents for that “sense of self.”
Ultimately, the Bronx native framed resilience as a habit. She returns to the stage, to film, and to family. And yes, she expects the cycle to repeat. However, she now meets it with checklists, perspective, and a quieter center.
