What began as a personal reflection on motherhood and friendship has now sparked a broader and more pointed celebrity conversation. Ashley Tisdale’s recent essay about stepping away from a “toxic” mom group prompted a sharp, satirical response from Matthew Koma, the husband of Hilary Duff.
Koma appeared to take a jibe at Tisdale’s recent essay with a pointed Instagram story on Tuesday. In the post, Koma shared a photoshopped image of himself placed into a photo of Tisdale, sitting casually on a couch in an all-black outfit and tinted sunglasses.
Hilary Duff’s husband, Matthew Koma, weighs in on Ashley Tisdale drama
The image featured a mocked-up The Cut logo and a fictional headline that read: “When You’re The Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth, Other Moms Tend To Shift Focus To Their Actual Toddlers,” followed by the subhead, “A Mom Group Tell All Through A Father’s Eyes.” Koma captioned the post, “Read my new interview with @TheCut,” suggesting the message was intended as satire.
Koma did not directly name Tisdale in his post. However, the timing and imagery strongly suggested a response to her essay, which was published the day prior. In that piece, Tisdale reflected on her decision to step away from a close-knit mom group after allegedly feeling excluded over time. “If a mom group consistently leaves you feeling hurt, drained or left out, it’s not the mom group for you,” Tisdale wrote.
In the essay, Tisdale claimed she was repeatedly left out of group activities. She pointed to seeing social media posts from gatherings she wasn’t invited to as a turning point. She also reflected on recognizing a pattern within the circle, recalling another mom who had previously seemed excluded.
Furthermore, Tisdale noted that she doesn’t know why the shift happened and may never have those answers. Instead, she emphasized that friendships change and stepping away can be an honest act of self-care, not judgment. The essay followed a viral blog post she shared in December titled “You’re Allowed to Leave Your Mom Group.”
Koma, for his part, has not offered additional explanation for his post, nor has Tisdale publicly responded to his remarks. As with much online discourse, reactions have been divided. Some fans praised Tisdale’s vulnerability, and others questioned whether the situation needed public commentary at all.
