90 Day Fiancé Recap: It’s Me Or The Bikini

Last night’s episode of 90 Day Fiance, contained “the three D’s”, disappointment, demands and delusion. I believe all three of these components are necessary for the success of this show.  You can’t possibly deal with any of this crazy sh!t, if you don’t have at least two on that list. Some of these people refuse to see what is clearly right in front of their face.

Kara‘s ex-boyfriend has advice for Guillermo. Miona gives Jibri an ultimatum. Yvette‘s friends grill Mohamed about his beliefs. Emily vetoes Kobe‘s parenting decisions. Shaeeda pressures Bilal about kids. Let’s get straight to the recap.

Yvette, 48 (Albuquerque, New Mexico) and Mohamed, 25 (Egypt)

Yvette is starting to become frustrated with Mohamed’s rules based on his cultural differences. Things start off rocky when they head out to dinner and he requests she put on a longer jacket because he can see her underwear. Now in this case, I actually agree with him. You could literally see Yvette’s thong straight through her thin dress and it doesn’t look good. Once they arrive at dinner with her friends, things get more awkward when the ladies grill him with all types of inappropriate questions. Yikes! Yvette if you wanted to voice your concerns, why wait until you had back up?

The tension is thick between Mohamed and Yvette on the car ride home. He feels that she did not defend him when her friends were judging him. Things escalate when they discuss her clothing choices, namely her choice in swimwear. Ironically the first picture he saw of her was in a bikini and he chose to DM her. Interesting!  Now we are getting down to the meat and potatoes of things. I wouldn’t change the way I dress either, if he was fully aware when we met. Once at home Yvette opts to sleep on the couch.

Kara, 29 (Charlottesville, Virginia) and Guillermo, 23 (Venezuela)

Kara brings Guillermo with her to set up a balloon tower for her high school reunion later that night. He is shocked by how aggressive and rude she is while he is trying to help her. He is starting to realize that his fiancé may be a lot more controlling than he anticipated. If I were Guillermo, I would run for the hills now. She has made it clear; it’s her way or the highway. Later, Kara introduces her fiancée to her ex-boyfriend at the reunion.  Things get interesting when he reveals that they broke up because she cheated on him. Guillermo had no idea that his wife-to-be was capable of that type of deception. He is also warned by the ex, not to allow himself to be controlled. Later, he confronts Kara about her past indiscretions and whether she plans to make those same mistakes with him. She reassures him that she has grown up a lot since high school. That is actually funny because earlier in the episode she literally said she wasn’t that different. I guess we will see how things develop between these two.


Jibri, 28 (Rapid City, South Dakota) and Miona, 23 (Serbia)

Jibri takes Miona to meet his grandmother at her farm. I couldn’t help but laugh when I saw Miona attempt to help tend to the horses in a pink outfit. While there, she reveals that she hasn’t been comfortable in Jibri’s mother’s house because of all of her rules. His grandmother advises her to take things with a grain of salt due to South Dakota’s conservative nature.  Later, Miona is starting to feel like she has made all of the sacrifices in their relationship. When Jibri mentions he needs to go to Chicago to finish his album, she will only agree if they can have a beach wedding. I know that cost is a concern, but why is he acting like there are no beaches in South Dakota?

Emily, 29 (Salina, Kansas) and Kobe, 34 (Cameroon)

Emily continues to micromanage Kobe in relation to his son. I don’t know about anyone else but this is really hard to watch. This man wants to be in her and his son’s life, but she doesn’t even realize she is pushing him away. How do you go from talking to him in a disrespectful manner, then wanting to be affectionate? If she truly wants things to work, she is going to have to learn how to relax and allow him to find his way in the family dynamic. Routines will have to change because now Koban’s father is in the picture and room needs to be made for him.

Emily leaves Koban alone with his farther for the first time when she goes to work. But her mother is having even more of a difficult time allowing him to parent. It is really sad because Kobe hasn’t done anything that would make me think he isn’t fit to watch a child. But once Emily returns home, the micromanaging starts once again. Kobe was fine the entire time with Koban, but because he wanted to give him nuts she chastises him. Sigh! Emily and her family are exhausting. He is better than me; I would not be able to have that level of patience with those people. They act as if he secretly trying to hurt his son by wanting to do normal things. I don’t know if she thinks this is cute for the cameras or she is truly this controlling.

Ariela, 30, (Princeton, New Jersey) and Biniyam, 31 (Ethiopia)

Biniyam video calls his sisters to update them on how things have been in America so far. Although there has been much strife within the family, they agree that he needs to be in his son’s life. Later, Biniyam sits down for lunch with Ariela’s family. They have many difficult questions that neither one of them are prepared to answer. Then he makes the grave mistake of admitting that even if things don’t work out between him and Ariela, he can still get a green card. Honestly, I think he is nervous and having a lot of issues communicating his thoughts. But that was brutal to watch. I could feel his anxiety through the screen, especially during the awkward silence and judgmental stares.

Bilal, 42 (Kansas City, Missouri) and Shaeeda, 37 (Trinidad and Tobago)

Despite their rocky start, Bilal takes Shaeeda out for a romantic night. While discussing love and marriage, she brings up her desire for her own children. He reminds her that they haven’t spent very much time together and doesn’t want to add unnecessary stress to their relationship. SMH… I don’t understand why he is being so vague. I understand him wanting to wait until they know each other better, but either he wants more children or not. Why dangle a carrot in front of her face, if he has no intention of making her a mother.



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