The Real Housewives of New York star, Alex McCord has decided to weigh in and advice Jon and Kate Gosselin after a recently publicized divorce filing.
Alex McCord, 35, and husband of nearly 10 years, Simon van Kempen, say that the key to staying together as a family while starring on TV show is to ensure your relationship is top priority.
“Remember that you [and your husband] were there first,” McCord told PEOPLE at the I Heart Gen Art 15th Anniversary benefit in New York City on Wednesday. “Remember that part of what makes raising your children a successful operation is having a successful relationship. And if you are not happy, I … guarantee you will foist that off on your kids and they will pick up on it.”
McCord and van Kempen, who have two young boys Johan and Francois, aged 5 and 3 respectively also offered some words of advice for other reality TV couples.
“Obsessively communicate,” McCord says. “Tell each other everything — the good, the bad and the ugly. Today, even I [thought to myself], ‘You can either just tell him, or you can sit and let it fester’ — and that’s when you get into trouble. So just come out with it, whatever it is.”
In a final advice, “Look out for your marriage as much as you look out for your kids,” adds van Kempen.