Selma Alameri is/was one of my favorite bachelorettes on the Bachelor this season. Please. Don't confuse "favorite bachelorette" with "the one" for Sean Lowe. It is more about whom I find entertaining and likable and less about whom I think Sean should pretend to be in love with for three to six months.
Unfortunately, Sean kicked Selma to the curb after she refused to take part in the Polar Bear Plunge in Canada. Personally, I wouldn't have done it either, and I admire Selma for staying true to herself rather than selling out for a one in nine chance at a
bound-to-fail relationship with Sean.
Sean tried to talk Selma into taking the plunge – saying things like you only live once and once in a lifetime opportunity – but she stood her ground. "I told him that if anybody was in danger, I would jump in and save them," Selma said. "But just to jump in for no reason, just to prove something to somebody, I said 'I don't feel like I should put my life at risk like that.' Once I have it in my head, 'no is no' – I won't be peer pressured."
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According to Selma, Sean took "no is no" as "she won't compromise." Selma added, "I felt like anyone who was willing to stand up to him or who called him out on anything, he was like, 'you're going home.' And he told me at the very end, 'I want to be the leader in the relationship.' He was obviously really upset."
Selma went into the Bachelor thinking of it as a win/win situation, as in she'd get either a vacation or a husband, adding, "I got a vacation. I just needed to get away, and I actually made life long friends. I love them, I adore them."
Selma said that she and the other bachelorettes passed the time by cooking, talking, doing manicures and pedicures, and playing Apples to Apples. Not including this season's cray cray, of course, who Selma called cuckoo. About Tierra LiCausi, she said, "You see crazy in her eyes. When she fell down the stairs, she took a plunge; it was really funny. The second we heard (someone had fallen) we went running out and when we saw it was her we went, 'meh.'"
When asked if Sean broke her heart, Selma unapologetically said, "No. Not heartbroken. Not at all." I love, love, love her realness. I hope we get to see more of Selma in the future… Selma on Bachelor Pad? Yes, please!
Let's start with the unexpected cut… Lesley… I will miss her humor. Sean explained:
My last date of the week was with Lesley. She fit the best-friend criteria, but I needed to see more from her. Lesley had a wall up and I always felt like she couldn't be completely vulnerable with me.Our date was fun, but I needed more than fun. I desperately wanted to see her open up emotionally and allow me to see her true feelings, but that never happened. As much as I enjoyed spending time with Lesley, I knew I had to send her home because she never allowed herself to open up emotionally.I was shocked to hear her say on TV that she loved me, and I was left confused as to why she didn't tell me that during our date. Had she told me, it could have changed everything.
I was nervous that if I ended up with Tierra, drama would follow her into our everyday lives. But when she told me she was falling in love with me, I softened a bit. She was always kind when she was with me, and I wanted to believe that the drama was circumstantial and that once she wasn't around a bunch of girls dating the same guy, she would be drama-free. I still ended the evening with questions, but remembering that my connection with Tierra was strong.I had no idea what I was walking into upon entering the women's suite. I was not aware of the big blowout AshLee and Tierra just had. I found Tierra crying on her bed with her head in her hands. I had already figured by this point that Tierra was not the woman I was going to marry, so when I saw how distraught she was, I knew I had to end it right then and there.I still believe Tierra has more good in her than people see, but I also recognize that she doesn't have the maturity or social skills necessary to make it on The Bachelor.
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