Dorinda Medley Not Insulted by Bethenny; Says Her Daughter Will Always Come First!


Dorinda Medley has kind of been a (low, raspy) breath of fresh air on the somewhat stale cougar tale of this season’s Real Housewives of New York.

In her latest Bravo blog, she comments on drama, dating, and daughters – and it’s all shockingly above board! Dorinda starts by reacting to Carole Radziwill’s news of dating Luann de Lesseps much-younger chef. Dorinda admits she was surprised by the news, but says “I didn’t know all the complexities at play, as well as her dating habits. I felt this might cause some problems with Luann, as it is a little close to home in many ways. We’ll see. I choose to stay out of people’s dating lives, as a rule, since it’s none of my business.” She adds, “At this point in our lives (for Carole and I, at least), we make our own choices and what comes of it, comes of it. As Doris Day said, ‘Que sera, sera.’”


Moving on to the argument between Bethenny Frankel and Heather Thomson regarding “who was invited?” and “who was a plus one?” to Bethenny’s birthday dinner, Dorinda’s attitude is refreshingly “who the hell cares?” She comments, “Was I insulted I was not invited to Bethenny’s birthday party? The answer is simple: Hell. No.” HA! Dorinda clarifies, “For a quick minute, I was a little miffed but then shrugged it off. Only because I wanted to get to know her better, but not because I felt I deserved to be or should’ve been. We only met once, and she doesn’t even really know me. It would’ve been odd if she had invited me, because it would’ve been obvious it was out of obligation.” She was mildly entertained, though, by the 40+ crowd (let’s throw ’em a bone!) dancing on tabletops and chairs at Bethenny’s dinner: “Must say, I did love the dancing on the tables bit. We old-school girls take any opportunity to get on a table and dance, it seems. It’s a generational thing, maybe? Or did we preempt Coyote Ugly without realizing it?” Maybe Coyote Ugly, Hip Replacement Ward? 

Having to bear witness to Heather and Bethenny’s confrontation at dinner later that week was exhausting and trite, Dorinda says. “Dinner at Cherry was intense on so many fronts. And so unnecessary, right? I think at this point, I am overwhelmed and exhausted by so many things. I wish I hadn’t sworn so much, but it was a combination of the frustration, the tension between Heather and Bethenny, the endless ‘how to rebrand death,’ and, of course, the martinis. (Sorry, Mom! Sorry, Dad!)” Although she admits Heather was coming from a (sorta) good place, she should have known better than to confront Bethenny in public – or anywhere, anytime, for that matter. “Although it was nice of Heather to be concerned for Kristen [Taekman], I knew there would not a subtle way of relaying the message to Bethenny…in front of an audience. Duh. Heather was trying to be a good friend, and I do feel bad about how Bethenny responded, but let’s face it: Bethenny does not have an open ear for that kind of stuff,” she says, adding “There really should be a sign that you read before you meet Bethenny that says, ‘Headlines only.’ Heather needs that memo. I think that’s why I nervously chimed in and tried to use both my situation with John and Hannah as a distraction, and that I wanted to go to the birthday dinner as well. But truthfully…wake me up when this is over…too.” #everyoneisbored!


As for her own tense dinner  scene with boyfriend John, Dorinda starts with some zen breathing: “OK. The SCENE WITH JOHN! Breathing, breathing, breathing…Let me be very clear about this and get right to the point: Hannah will always be first. Always, always, always.” Dorinda further explains her frustrations with their relationship: “Here’s the thing…it is sometimes difficult when you date a man that A) Has never been married, and B) Has never had a child. I, on the other hand, have been married throughout my adult life and have been a mommy most of it. I only know motherhood and being a mother, and as a mother, we all know friends come and go, husbands come and go, but your children are forever.” True dat. Dreaming of her life as an old lady with no dry cleaning man to fret over, Dorinda says, “When I’m old and grey (silver grey by John Barrett, thank you very much) and living in Boca (which might actually be Palm Beach, to be honest), Hannah will be there with my Grande Finale Hairspray and Batiste Dry Shampoo to comfort me. (I just hope she remembers the very dirty Grey Goose martini.)” Well, if that isn’t clear about where John falls in the pecking order, then I don’t know what is! As for Dorinda’s attitude on whether John stick around for the long haul or not, she reflects, “Was I a bit too harsh? Maybe. Was I giving him subtle bailout after subtle bailout every time he approached the subject? Yes. There’s only so much you can put up with until you blow a gasket. I blew two. And lost my appetite. (Glad he didn’t lose his, though. #eyeroll) I hope you didn’t!” 

Tonight is an all new episode of RHONY and we’ll be Live-Tweeting the chaos, as always! 


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