When he failed to support her plan for a more American-friendly menu for their struggling Australian-themed restaurant Oz, Ashley told Michael she was sick of him treating her like a child instead of an equal partner. Then she threatened to leave him. In her blog, Ashley admits that she should have given Michael more notice about her plans for the menu reveal event. “It was the beginning of a miscommunication that snowballed,” says Ashley.
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Ashley explains, “I assumed Michael would agree and we would have a killer event that would prove all of the naysayers wrong. In hindsight, I could have taken a different approach and discussed my rationale for planning the dinner with Michael further in advance.”
About the fight in the parking lot, she shares, “The air between Michael and me was already sour because we had been going back and forth on the logistics of the evening for a couple of days. In addition to the anxiety of hosting influential food bloggers, I was arguing with my right-hand man, putting my anxiety at a higher level than I’ve ever experienced. I hate arguing with my husband – life is hard enough game without battling your teammate. Because both of us care about Oz so much, it was hard to go into the night without our usual solid foundation.”
Ashley acknowledges that both she and Michael are guilty of having “egos that get in the way” of their relationship.
“And on that night my bruised ego caused me to say horrible things to the man that I love. I winced when I heard myself talk about massaging his feet and rubbing his back – those are the two things I miss doing the most since we shifted our focus and energy to the restaurant. As the night went on, I think our shared love for our first ‘baby’ brought our relationship back into focus. It pains me to see that we ever got to that point, but neither of us is perfect, and neither is our relationship. What it boils down to is, finding our unity even through this storm, and we are a constant work in progress.”
About apologizing to Charrisse, she insists, “I am genuinely sorry to Charrisse Jackson Jordan. In my anxiety I misdirected my anger toward her when I needed to concentrate on what was actually bothering me – the frustration of finding balance and peace in my personal life.”
“Part of the experience of being a Real Housewife is being able to see yourself for who you truly are because we share the intimate details of our lives with the world,” reflects Ashley. “These ladies are on the journey with me, so I want to aim to help them understand me as best I possibly can. I give them my true self – they can take it how they please.”
Ashley admits in her blog that threatening to leave Michael was a knee jerk reaction – one that she didn’t mean – to their fight.
“That ultimatum came out of a paramount amount of frustration. Michael and I had gone through ebbs and flows with the restaurant up to that point, so I was not in a good space. Even though I was upset, it was not prudent for me to say something as drastic as threatening to end my marriage because of a business. One of the things I am working on (with the help of a professional) is saying what I actually feel versus what I think will get the most reaction. My true feelings are far more important than leaving a mark.”
In the end, Ashley says that Oz is in a much better place these days, but sadly, her marriage is still a work in progress.
“Oz is doing much better now that we have found our groove, but we are still working through the toll it took on our relationship. I would be lying to you if I said we were back to the crazy, doting couple we used to be. We still love each other and the connection that Michael and I share is very powerful. I am optimistic that we can overcome these hurdles and be stronger in the end, but even if we can’t recover and decide to part ways, I will always cherish him.”
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