Shannon Beador

Anyone else Team Shannon Beador? The newest member of the Real Housewives of Orange County was thrown in with gunnners Vicki Gunvalson and Tamra Barney via Fancy Pants Heather Dubrow, and I must say she held her own. Despite a very tense dinner, I think she did great, and now she's letting viewers know her thoughts courtesy of Bravo. 

The newbie begins her Bravo blog, "I have to say that when I started filming RHOC I knew it was not going to be 'the Shannon Beador show' — that I was going to be shown in both positive and negative lights. I also understood that despite multiple hours of filming, there would only be a few moments shown on the screen. Everyone in our family tends to joke with each other, but often times on film it doesn't appear very funny. And now for week two, I find that some of my not-so-proudest moments have been chosen to air."


She writes, "David and I come from a different background. I am proud of David that he has achieved so much success in his life, all on his own, and that I have been privileged to witness it. He always tells me that he feels a sense of accomplishment when he can expose our children to things he wasn't able to experience as a child. Stella feels bad that she told her dad that he didn't have good manners. She certainly didn't mean it and both David and I thought it was quite sweet that she apologized after seeing the episode (as did I for laughing along)."

Of Tamra's "boo"ze-fest, Shannon shares, "I finally met all of the women at Tamra's spooky party! I asked Heather whether it was a costume party and she said that she was just going to be wearing black. I was surprised to see her 'third eye,' and had I known people were going to be dressed in a 'spooky' way I absolutely would have done more than wear a black dress! I felt a bit awkward at first because as soon as Heather and I entered the party, she went right up to Vicki and Tamra and I was left standing there. When everyone went to sit down, she sat on the other end with the gals while I sat by myself. If the tables were turned, I would have stayed with Heather, but I am a big girl and can take care of myself! I instantly connected with Vicki and had an amazing time with her! Tamra seems like lots of fun as well!"

Shannon continues, "I am an open book and am proud of that fact. I don’t think that by telling a group of women that I wish my husband and I spent more time together is airing any marital dirty laundry. I may be going out on a limb, but I am pretty sure there are many women out there that have been married for 14 years that wish for the same thing. My husband is extremely busy and I have been completely supportive throughout our marriage of his need to work long hours and on weekends. But when he joined a business group and started to take two vacations a year with them, I began to get resentful. If he could take the time for those trips, why couldn’t he take just one night away with me? I have been asking him to do this for five years now, and it has been hurtful that an effort hasn’t been made. I understand that I could make the reservations and plan something myself; I just want to know that David wants to take me away by his own decision, not mine."

Touching on her need for nine lemons in the kitchen bowl and jewels in her grill, Shannon shares, "Tonight you got a peek into some of the feng shui cures I have around the house. Elaine Wright, our feng shui consultant, has done wonders for us. When Sophie was three-years-old, Elaine moved her bed to a different location and Sophie was able to finally sleep through the night. There will be more on Elaine and my love affair with feng shui in episodes to come!"

She adds, "I have to say that I agree with Tamra that it is not very kind to refer to someone as 'people like you' or 'someone like that.' If I choose to live my life more naturally than others, then it is my choice. I also try to maintain a balance. I am not obsessive about doing everything in my life the most natural way and I actually do quite a bit of research before taking on anything new. Heather is quite opinionated about my decisions to try holistic things. She also seems to be strongly opinionated in Tamra's discussion about potentially having another child. I never interpreted Tamra's words to mean that she wanted to have a child to 'fill a hole' or 'replace' her three children. I heard her saying that she wanted to share something special with her new husband. The warning flags on Heather have been raised…"

The Bravo franchise is racking up dinner parties from hell, and Shannon's shindig was no different. She admits, "And now onto the uncomfortable stuff. I would like to start this off by saying that David and I actually do get along and can have a good time together. You clearly have not seen that yet. David and I have always had a very sarcastic banter between each other, but it just doesn't seem as playful anymore. My resentment for not being made a priority has clearly turned me into a more bitter person. Hence, some explanation into why I am not always the cheeriest person to come home to. (Check – need to work on that!)"

Shannon rationalizes, "I was excited for David to meet the women and their husbands. We pride ourselves on being a bit more down-to-earth, so oftentimes we will cook when we have dinner parties for 12 and under. David cooks the meat and torches the crème brulee if that is the dessert we are serving (I am afraid of the torch!) and I do everything else. Anyone can hire a caterer. I believe that when you spend the day cooking, the meal comes from the heart. I am high adrenaline most of the time. I want everything to go smoothly, but most of the time it does not."

Concluding, Shannon shares that things between her and David aren't as tense as they appear. She recalls, "We discussed the wine — we needed to buy multiple bottles of wine the night before and David came home with only two bottles. Understandably I was frustrated, but there are ways to express frustration and then there are ways not to. My behavior falls under the second category. I need to be calmer. I need to stop snapping. I need to understand that some men may not even help for a minute in the kitchen and get over the fact that David didn't actually do things he said he did," reiterating, "I love my husband and appreciate him and need to express those things more. I am human and everyone makes mistakes, but it is how you interpret and correct your faults that really matters. I am on a quest for more inner peace."

We like Shannon, right? 


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