Jules Wainstein blog

Well, someone found her voice this week on The Real Housewives of New York – even if it was only in her blog! Jules Wainstein unleashed her opinions about Bethenny Frankel and Carole Radziwill in no uncertain terms. Jules’ writing is so sharp in fact, Carole even took to twitter to disparage Jules further and defend herself, re-tweeting one viewer’s pointed question, “I think Jules used a ghostwriter to write this weeks blog. What do u think?” Hmm. You be the judge!

Jules begins by wondering, “‘Why is there always yelling and screaming? Why is someone always storming out of the room in tears? Why is someone always being mocked, insulted, judged or left out? WHAT PLANET ARE WE ON?!’ And then it hit me like a meteor: We are on planet Bethenny. Unlike on planet Earth where friendships are formed and shaped through mutual support and encouragement, on planet Bethenny (which is circled 24/7 by a moon named Carole) it is acceptable for friends to disparage one another behind their backs, to judge, berate and abandon one another on an almost constant basis.” Uh-oh. Shots fired! SHOTS FIRED!


Jules continues the metaphor: “Unfamiliar with the customs and rituals on planet Bethenny, I lost my temper ‘out of nowhere’ during a recent visit. Back on planet Earth, my outburst might have been precipitated by months of dismissive, snide, insensitive comments and scrutiny of everything from a flick of my hair to the the food on my plate and the homes in which I live (how quickly we forget the just plain nasty Hamptons ‘visit’! On planet Bethenny, that never happened, I suppose) and months of watching women around me get verbally assaulted. Another thing I quickly discovered during my recent trip to Bethenny was that there is no empathy on this planet, and the popular phrase ‘zero f—s’ literally means ‘to have zero self-awareness.'”

Calling dinner at Joanne’s “painful” due to Carole and Bethenny’s “lack of empathy,” Jules blogs, “Recovery from any illness is hard, and it’s rarely a linear path. I thought I was ok. I wasn’t ok and I admitted it, was dealing with it and moving forward again — that’s what people do. What people don’t do is sit around judging and shaming a person in recovery and projecting their own issues onto them.”

After revealing her recent eating disorder “setbacks,” Jules was shocked when “the all-knowing and morally-superior Carole responds with a sneer of disgust (‘Oh Jesus!’) and accuses me of being in denial. Bethenny once again makes the entire issue about herself and her own childhood. On planet Earth, gravity is defined as ‘a natural phenomenon by which all things with energy are brought toward one another.’ Not so on planet Bethenny, where all things always revolve around and are drawn back to one person. Heaven forbid anyone attempts to pull the attention away from Bethenny.”

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On the bus Ramona Singer chartered to Mohegan Sun, Jules explains that the laws that rule “Planet Bethenny” became crystal clear. She jokes, “I learned that the laws of sound and speed on planet Earth also do not exist on planet Bethenny, and people sometimes cannot hear conversations from one foot away in an enclosed space. Imagine my confusion/delusion. I also learned that on planet Bethenny, anything can be reversed at any given moment – pure hatred and animosity like what Bethenny displayed towards Sonja [Morgan] just a few weeks prior can be turned into feelings of affection and admiration on a dime.” 

Jules calls out Bethenny’s truce with Sonja as fake, at worst, and confusing, at best. “Nothing actually changed between the time that Bethenny unleashed her fury on Sonja and the Mohegan Sun bus ride — Sonja didn’t change her course of action or behaviors — yet for some reason Bethenny went from, ‘I don’t accept your apology and I never want to see your face again’ to ‘I really miss you’ in an instant. Could it be to make sure I was as uncomfortable and alienated on that bus and trip as possible? Common sense or paranoia? I guess that depends on what planet you live on.” Not sure I agree with Jules’ supposition that Bethenny making up with Sonja is about her, but…who knows with this bunch!

Closing her blog with some parting words for “Planet Bethenny,” Jules accuses Bethenny of narcissism and self destruction. She explains, “Getting self-absorbed sometimes is human — we are all guilty of it from time to time. Going through life with such extreme selfishness and self-centeredness that you cannot distinguish other people’s problems from your own, empathize with anyone, be proud or happy for anyone, that’s just plain narcissism. I’m no rocket scientist (duh) but in my opinion, whatever signs of life exist on planet Bethenny today are doomed to self-destruct.”


Jules Wainstein blog

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