The entire Real Housewives of Potomac cast was a little shocked over the Darby showdown on last week’s episode. Monique Samuels is the latest to share her two cents on the marriage and business trouble plaguing Ashley Darby and her husband Michael.
First, she weighs in on Karen Huger‘s photo shoot. Monique says she’s all for capturing these moments in time and even has had them done as a couple with her husband. “I love that Karen finds ways to keep her man smiling. That’s what it’s all about! Keep your marriage fresh and young will make it last forever.”
Monique shares in her blog that Ashley Darby and her husband Michael’s fight was hard to watch. “I cringed inside the entire time and couldn’t wait for the argument to end. It was very ugly. I’ve always had the mindset to respect my husband, while he, in return, loved me. The way Ashley spoke to Michael was so disturbing to me. There was a time when I was dating my now husband and he expressed to me the importance of respect and being mindful of the way I spoke to him, especially in public. As I watched Ashley and Michael, it made me think of the “young me” and what my husband and I would look and sound like had I not fixed my mouth and delivery during an argument.”
Monique thinks the problem is the blurred lines between business and marriage. “Ashley seems to be confusing “business” Michael with “husband” Michael. She’s mad that he treats her like a child in business and she wants respect but she forgets that respect is earned. Whether she likes it or not, Michael has been successful in business so she has some proving to do. I’m sure as the restaurant grows and becomes more successful, Michael will recognize that and feel more comfortable about the investment he made. She must also not allow the success or failure of the restaurant determine the outcome of their marriage. Marriage and business are two separate entities. You can put a dollar amount on a business, but not on love and marriage.”
Monique was a little appalled by Ashley’s negative comments, “I could tell there was some tension when Ashley and Michael were giving their welcome speech before we began eating. I couldn’t believe she joked about never going into business with your husband in front of everyone. Ouch!” Monique adds that if they can get a better routine going, it could work just fine.
Her advice to Ashley? “Create office hours. That was the best thing Chris and I did when we started working together over 10 years ago. They should establish times to speak about work and then everything else should be dedicated to the reasons they fell in love with each.” She continues, “There has to be a cut-off or the lines of business and pleasure will continue to be blurred. I would also suggest getting marriage counseling. You don’t have to wait for there to be an issue to seek wise counsel. Just remember that the marriage was in place before the restaurant. The success of the marriage should not be predicated on the restaurant. Michael made a financial investment into this restaurant because it was something Ashley wanted.”
On tonight’s RHOP: “Gizelle faces some harsh payback when she is shut out of Monique’s lake house summer bash. As Karen closes the deal on the sale of her Potomac home the reality of having to move sends her looking for a distraction. Ashley reveals a decision about her and Michael’s future after their big Oz blow out. Robyn finds herself in therapy after everyone questions her relationship with Juan. Karen’s scheme to “getaway” with a girls’ trip to Bermuda goes awry after she decides to kick her planning partner, Charrisse to the curb.” The action kicks off at 8/7 C. As always, join us here in the comments for our virtual viewing party.
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