90 Day Fiance Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Last night’s episode of 90 Day Fiance Before The 90 Days, was filled with equal parts of desperations and emotional meltdowns.   This episode gave me just enough crazy to be able to make it through the week thankful for small annoyances. I spent half the episode just shaking my head in pity for these crazy people. What did we do to deserve this show? It is the gift that keeps on giving. I don’t even know where to start there were so many cringeworthy moments. Honestly, some of these people need either medication or shouldn’t be allowed to live alone. Someone, anyone needs to save them from themselves. Grab your favorite snack and let’s get down to business.

Lisa Hamme and Usman Umar plead their case to get married. Stephanie Matto finally meets Erika Owens‘s friends.  Avery Warner begins to question Ash Naeck‘s professional relationships. David prepares to meet the mysterious Lana. Yolanda Leak updates her daughter on the situation with Williams. Geoffrey Paschel opens up to Varya Malina ‘s mom about his criminal past. Let’s get straight into the 90 Day Fiance Before the 90 Days recap!

Geoffrey, 41 (Knoxville, Tenn.) & Varya, 30 (Russia)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

After revealing his drug dealing past, Geoffrey meets with Varya to see if he can win back her trust. She is still in shock and worries about whether Geoffrey’s prison stint could affect her future. In other words, she wants to know if he is successful enough to take a risk. After Geoffrey riddles off his educational and professional accolades, Varya decides that she is willing to continue their relationship. Geoffrey offers to confess his secret to Varya’s mother in an attempt to be fully transparent. Good luck with that!


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Geoffrey will have to admit his past mistakes to not only to Varya’s mother, but her brother who he has never met, as well. When Geoffrey finally confesses, Varya’s mother and brother are both shocked and don’t believe he has changed. Varya’s family don’t want her to go to  America or continue to pursue a relationship with Geoffrey.


Stephanie, 29 (New York) & Erika, 24 (Australia)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Stephanie and Erika only have two weeks left to figure out if they are truly compatible. After a disastrous evening, Erika returns to the hotel the next day to apologize and talk about their issues. Stephanie reveals that she has trust issues due to past relationships and there are things about Erika’s life that scare her. She is still trying to find a way to digest the fact that Erika has been intimate with several of her friends. Erika reassures Stephanie that she can be trusted and she still wants her to meet her friends.

Erika takes Stephanie to a party to finally meet her friends. Stephanie meets the infamous Adam who Erika has been intimate with in the past. If I was her, I wouldn’t be worried in the least after seeing him. As the night goes on, Stephanie grows more and more uncomfortable and decides to approach Adam. Erika is extremely uncomfortable as she watches Stephanie interrogate her best friend. Things get intense when Erika gets angry and starts yelling at Stephanie about being jealous, before storming off.


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Okay, these two don’t belong together. Neither one of them knows how to communicate. I don’t think Stephanie is wrong to inquire about the dating apps or previous relationships, but she does it at the wrong times. Erika on the other hand, acts as if she has no idea why anyone would be bothered by some of the things she has told Stephanie. Ummm… you are in a long distance relationship, what did you expect?

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

When Stephanie goes to find Erika, she walks in to find her having a negative conversation with her friends about her. I’m sorry but if I went to meet my girlfriend’s friends and she caused a scene and then went around speaking about me negatively, I would be done. Erika can be upset, but to take someone somewhere where they don’t know anyone and turn everyone against them is wrong. Stephanie is so upset she goes outside to call a friend and then decides to return to the hotel. I would be calling the airline to move up my flight and blocking Erika’s number.


Avery, 32 (Seattle) & Ash, 38 (Australia)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Ash takes Avery on a water outing to share a fun experience. Things are going well, until Avery begins to ask more about Ash’s relationship coaching business. Apparently, earlier that day she saw 68 text messages from several different women. When she presses him for more information, Ash tells her he is single. WTF! I know Avery wanted to push him off that boat, in that moment.


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He then tries to back track on that on that statement, when she questions it. Avery begins to wonder if Ash is hiding something from her because he is so defensive. She wants him to make it clear to his clients that he is in a relationship.


Lisa, 52 (York, PA.) & Usman “SojaBoy,” 30 (Nigeria)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Lisa and Usman decide to meet with his oldest brother in a last ditch effort to get his mother’s blessings for marriage. His brother reveals that their mother was shocked an older, white, American woman was asking for her to marry her son. He can barely look at his brother and Lisa without laughing, but he agrees to talk to his mother on their behalf.


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Two days later, Usman and Lisa learn his brother was not able to convince his mother to give her blessing. Duh! They decide to go to the mosque in an attempt to win Usman’s mother’s favor. Lisa is completely out of her comfort zone as she attempts to follow along with the traditions. When they leave the mosque, Lisa asks again for the blessing. Mama Usman simply replies that Lisa is not Usman’s mate because she is too old. I don’t know why Lisa thought she would change her mind just because they prayed together.

In an on-camera interview, his mother reveals she is worried that her son will become a servant in America. Lisa is so controlling. Who knows what she planned for Usman?  It definitely wouldn’t be a music career with adoring female fans.


Darcey, 45(Connecticut) & Tom, 39 (England)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Darcey Silva is finally on her way home after her dreadful meeting with Tom Brooks. She meets with her twin sister, Stacey to share the embarrassing details. Darcey becomes emotional as she questions why she continues to be unlucky in love. She needs to stop trying to force these quick whirlwind romances and get her emotions in check. I believe she could have a normal relationship, once she just relaxes and fixes her own issues.


David, 60 (Nevada) & Lana, 27 (Ukraine)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

David is still is Ukraine searching for his invisible online girlfriend, Lana. SMH…  This just gets more and more pathetic every episode. Lana agrees to meet David for lunch after doing everything in her power to avoid him to this point. This should be interesting. First he stops by a local flower shop to buy 9 roses, rather than a dozen. Insert side eye emoji.

At the restaurant, he is so nervous he has to get half naked to wash under his arms and change his shirt, in the bathroom. Is he trying to compete with Darcey for the most awkward bathroom bathing scene? He waits looking like a creeper just staring at Lana’s picture and the entrance until he realizes he has been stood up yet again. After waiting over two hours, David sits guzzling the champagne alone. He is completely devastated when he finally leaves.


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David calls his friend, Jim to inform him that he has been stood up again by Lana. He reveals that he plans to drive to her house in hopes of finally meeting her. Jim clearly thinks it’s a crazy idea, but decides not to push the issue. Obviously he knows David is obsessed. We are left on the edge of our seat when someone finally opens the apartment door. I highly doubt its Lana but I guess we will have to wait until next week’s 90 Day Fiance Before the 90 Days to find out.

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Yolanda, 51 (Las Vegas, NV) & Williams, 40 (England)

90 Day Fiancé Before The 90 Days Recap: Should’ve Known Better

Yolanda meets with her daughter, Karra to reveal the threat she received to expose her private pictures after asking Williams was he Nigerian. Karra is shocked to discover her mother not only shared pictures, but her home address with him. I’m more shocked Yolanda has several children, but is as naïve as a doe-eyed child. She still believes that Williams has been hacked and they are in love. Karra doesn’t buy any of this and tries to convince Yolanda that it is Williams who threatened and attempted to scam her. Someone please take away Yolanda’s electronic devices. I think a intervention may be necessary.


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