Jules Wainstein Wonders How Real Housewives Of New York Went From “Bra To Brawl”?

NEW YORK, NEW YORK - APRIL 06: Julianne Wainstein attends the "The Real Housewives of New York City" Screening Party at 42 West on April 6, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Jerritt Clark/WireImage)

Jules Wainstein wants to know (as do we all): How did a Real Housewives Of New York party go “from BRA to Brawl?” And another thing we can all agree on, “John…. John… John… A bra party is not the place for you!” 

Except before John even arrived, the ladies were having trouble keeping their opinions to themselves. 

Poor Jules got quite an initiation attending her first RHONY party. She believed Dorinda Medley invited her to shop for lingerie, but quickly learned that was merely a scantily clad covering for drama! “One minute you’re the hostess… next, you’re NOT the mostest,” muses Jules.


In fact, before Jules even tried on a bra, Dorinda argued with Bethenny Frankel and Ramona Singer. After that debacle at least Jules got to the shopping portion of the evening – but even that was not without its insults. 

“I just met Carole [Radziwill], she’s fabulous…style on point, but she’s already talking about my weight,” complains Jules. “Who does that when you first meet someone? The comment about my body does not bother me, though. This type of conversation is not new to me… I know it’s not coming from a bad place, because it comes from a place of concern. Don’t be worried about me, I am worried about YOU worrying about me because I have experience in this area.” 

Jule’s complaint doesn’t carry much weight with me after her repeated comments referring to the other Real Housewives Of New York as “elderly”. Jules insists the comment was a “joke.”

“I was saying how I expected everyone to act differently that night. I didn’t mean to offend anyone at all, and I’m so sorry if I did. It was said during my confessional being silly. I am 10 years younger than the youngest housewife, so I had a little humor – no biggie.  I believe all the girls know I would never hurt a fly, and if I did, it was unintentional.” 

Of course, Jules was far from the most offensive that night! Because in walked John with a bone to pick with Bethenny

Jules compares John “crashing a chick party” to “walking into the lion’s den,” and notes it was “not the best idea.”

“I was shocked that they behaved with each other in this manner leaving me to play referee,” she mentions. “I knew what I needed to do to diffuse the situation and that was to get John out of there. It was the elevator ride to freedom.”

Jules isn’t defending John’s actions that night, but she does defend Dorinda and John’s relationship. “I’ve hung out with, spent the night with, conversed with Dorinda alone and with John. They don’t need me to stick up for them, although they are my friends, and if they ever needed me, I would be there for them. I have an understanding of them and most people do not.”


“Just because Dorinda and John introduced me to the group does not mean I will not call it how I see it,” she adds. “However, I make sure I do it at the right place, at the right time.” 

The right time, apparently being in the Hamptons, where Jules and Michael were happy to have Dorinda and John as guests. 

“I’m also glad that Dorinda had din with the girls. Sisters before misters. It’s great when you can argue and fight but then sit down at a nice dinner and speak your mind eloquently and with reason and concern,” Jules writes in her Bravo blog. “It was wonderful to see these ladies talk it out. And that’s what I call acting our age.”

Speaking of calls, as in phone calls from Bethenny and Ramona, Jules was not pleased to hear Bethenny refer to her as “special needs,” and explains why she was so distracted during the call. 

“They called in the middle of dinner time, and I was cooking for my kids!” Jules says. “Remember, I’m the only REAL housewife on the show! Bethenny can only see through her Bethenny-colored glasses. It’s her way or the highway. No room to step into someone else’s Manolos and walk a mile in them.” 

“At this point in the show I respect everyone very much and I’m hurt watching what’s going on behind my back. Calling me someone with ‘special needs’ is cruel. I just don’t want to get involved in that drama, and it makes me uncomfortable,” Jules continues. “I remembered feeling upset that night being put on the spot to talk smack about my friend Dorinda. Ramona is right, I do not like to get into other people’s drama, and I am very laid back when it concerns other people’s business.”

In general, Jules is not about Bethenny’s judgmental attitude. “Don’t throw stones at glass houses,” she lectures. “I would never criticize anyone’s parenting, business, health or her life… ” Does Jules mean, “Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones”? Oh boy… Jules is gonna give Ramona and her malapropisms a run for her money, isn’t she?


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