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Sure, every show in the Real Housewives franchise is unique is, but there are certain elements that carry through in every series. Although each Housewife is unique, there is pretty much always one person in each show who is a real stickler for etiquette- and wants every single person to be aware of it.

These are the ladies who live by a set of social rules and love to remind the other cast members about it whenever they possibly can. You know who I’m talking about and there’s one of these girls in each series. Sometimes these ladies are just genuinely trying to share some guidance based on their past experiences. And other times these are the kind of women who just like to hear themselves talk about etiquette over and over again.



Real Housewives of Orange County- Heather Dubrow

Heather Dubrow

For the most part, Heather Dubrow really plays off her focus on etiquette very well. At first I didn’t know what to make of the woman nicknamed “Fancy Pants,” but I am a honestly a fan. She is definitely more refined than the other ladies on Real Housewives of Orange County and she does share her two cents about etiquette pretty often, but for the most part she really isn’t judgmental of the other woman. And I’m not trying to be shady, she’s BFF’s with Tamra Judge, so clearly she does not care if her friends are less polished than she is. 


Real Housewives of New York- Luann de Lesseps


When Real Housewives of New York started, Luann de Lesseps would not let anyone forget that she is a Countess. I distinctly remember a scene from the first season when she corrected Bethenny Frankel after she introduced her as Luann instead of “Countess de Lesseps.” She even wrote a book called Class with the Countess about etiquette tips. But then Luann got divorced and she unleashed her inner cougar and I was all about it. So she was getting wild, but still sharing her etiquette opinions with everyone even though it can be argued that she was behaving in the same ways as her peers. But that contradiction makes great TV and I live for it.


Real Housewives of Atlanta- Phaedra Parks

Phaedra Parks

Phaedra Parks is all about being a Southern Belle on Real Housewives of Atlanta. She has no problem calling out the ladies when she feels like they are out of line. She is just a little bit confusing though. She can talk about being a prim and proper church lady in one scene and twerk in mesh, thong bikini the next. Don’t get me wrong, I feel like you can be a lady in the street and a freak in the bed, but Phaedra’s persona can be confusing at times. I feel like she’s just trying to do it all- and yes, Phaedra also wrote a book full of etiquette tips.


Real Housewives of New Jersey- Caroline Manzo


When it came to the Real Housewives of New Jersey, it was hard to think of someone who is the standard perfectionist when it comes to etiquette, but Caroline Manzo comes pretty damn close. Sure, there’s nothing super refined about the Jersey cast (which is why they are so great), but Caroline was constantly pushing her Italian family values on everyone. So I feel like she would fit the bill for the New Jersey etiquette queen- it’s just a very different set of rules.


Real Housewives of Beverly Hills- Yolanda Foster


I didn’t know how I felt about Yolanda Foster when she first joined the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills cast. I remember her saying “There’s nothing uglier than a drunk woman” and I wondered if she had any idea what show she was on. And then she had all of those awkwardly structured dinner parties that seemed to be far from fun. Over time, it seemed like she started to loosen up and accept the other women- but at the same time, these are the least wild women in the whole franchise with the exception of Brandi Glanville so I feel like she shouldn’t have been fretting too much.


Real Housewives of Potomac- Karen Huger

Karen Huger

We’ve only had one season of Real Housewives of Potomac, I’m already done with Karen Huger CONSTANTLY talking about etiquette and how she is the queen bee of Potomac society. I keep going back and forth trying to decide how I feel about her as a cast member on the show, but I’ll tell you one thing: I am beyond over her constant etiquette tips. Who is Karen Huger anyway? I just have no idea why she thinks she has such high authority over the city of Potomac. I get that she’s been around for a while, but I think that she could still be a proper lady and actually be nice to people. I have no idea where the attitude comes from. I feel like she could have at least waited for season two to pull that shit out.


Real Housewives of Dallas- LeeAnne Locken

LeeAnne Locken blog

I cannot stand watching LeeAnne Locken on Real Housewives of Dallas. With that said, I have to be honest and admit that there would be no show without her. Still, I could really do without her constantly talking about the so-called “charity world” nonstop. If I wanted to play a drinking game watching the show, I would get wasted if I only had one rule: drink when LeeAnne talks about etiquette. She is beyond obnoxious and her constant chatter about social rules actually makes her look tacky in an ironic way.

Some of these ladies use their wisdom to educate the people around them and others just need to chill out and stop being so self righteous. Nevertheless, they all play an integral part in the Real Housewives franchise and it wouldn’t be the same without them.

Speaking of etiquette (or lack thereof) – tonight is an all new episode of Real Housewives of Dallas. Tune in to the comments section here to chat, analyze and have some fun.


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