Scheana Shay has always been open-minded. Open to love, open to Botox, open to recording another single if the vibe is right. But when it comes to open relationships? She talks a big game, but the receipts tell a different story.
In a recent interview for her new memoir, Scheana and Brock Davies stirred the pot with a surprisingly casual convo about the idea of opening up their marriage. And while Scheana tried to play it cool, I imagine smiling through her lip gloss most longtime fans raised an eyebrow so high it went off the Bravo screen. Because if there’s one thing Scheana’s track record has shown us, it’s this: she loves hard, she loves fast, and she really, really doesn’t like to share.
Scheana Shay opened up about her history with open relationships
To her credit, Scheana didn’t pretend she’s new to the idea. In the Us Weekly interview, she mentioned having explored non-monogamy before, hinting that it might not be a totally foreign concept. And that’s not a huge shock. Scheana’s always been a bit left-of-center when it comes to relationships. She married young, divorced fast, rebounded hard, and has been open (pun intended) about her curiosity around different relationship dynamics. Scheana is still very much processing the fact that Brock had an affair. She told the outlet she had feelings for a woman before she married the rugby player in 2022. And even confessed she knows the idea of an open relationship “does not end well.”
She added, “In the beginning, did Brock think, ‘Oh, well, maybe the three of us?’ — I’m sure. But no, that was never going to be anything I was open to because I had learned my lesson from doing that many times in the past.” As Scheana has learned, curiosity doesn’t always mean compatibility. Scheana may have dabbled in the past, but her reactions during the interview tell a fuller story. Personally, I think it’s forward thinking of Scheana, but with the trust broken, it most certainly won’t be happening. Like most viewers, it’s not that she’s against the idea of open relationships—it’s that emotionally, she’s never really shown she can handle the reality of them. And honestly? That’s okay. Not everyone’s built for it.
Scheana Shay doesn’t have an issue with the idea of a relationship with another woman
I feel that we need Detective Doute on the case regarding the identity of the mystery woman. Let’s give Scheana credit where it’s due: she’s not insecure about other women in the abstract. In fact, she’s been pretty vocal over the years about being fluid, flirty, and open to experimenting. She’s been pretty open about her kissing Ariana Madix in Vegas. During a Vanderpump Rules episode, she noted, “She’s a good kisser. And she’s hot as f*ck.” But there’s a huge difference between fantasy and function.
Scheana might seem chill about the idea of another woman pre-Brock’s affair, but that ship has sailed. I now imagine the moment the situation steps outside her comfort zone, that cool girl energy melts away, and we’re back to the Scheana who once asked a guy to “so you don’t love me?” after a third date. It’s not about jealousy. It’s about control. Scheana likes to be in the driver’s seat of her relationships, and I can’t say I blame her. The issue with open relationships is that they require a level of emotional detachment and mutual trust that Scheana will never have with Brock again.
Scheana Shay may have had open relationships in the past that didn’t end well
While she hasn’t gone into detail, Scheana has hinted before that open or non-traditional situationships haven’t exactly worked out in her favor. And if you’ve watched her Bravo journey from start to finish, it’s easy to connect the dots. There was Rob Valletta, who ghosted her emotionally after it was obvious it was a one-sided love affair. There was Adam Spott, who she desperately wanted to commit, but who kept things casual until it fizzled. She grew so bored waiting that she even slept with another guy, hoping it would jump-start the relationship. There was also Mike Shay, whom she caught texting other women. And now there’s Brock, who she clearly adores, but who she also tries very hard to keep on a tight leash.
Scheana has a pattern. She says she’s okay with casual or open, but eventually wants full commitment and fast. And when that doesn’t happen? She spirals. Hard. So maybe it’s not that she couldn’t try an open relationship again. It’s that she knows herself well enough to know how it would end: with her overanalyzing every move, crying into a podcast mic, and eventually confessing that she wasn’t as okay with it as she thought.
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