Southern Charm’s Kathryn Dennis On Her Relationship With Thomas Ravenel: “We Are Never, Ever, Ever Getting Back Together!”

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To quote my favorite now defunct VH1 show, Kathryn Dennis may be having the Best Week Ever. Not only did the unfiltered, controversial Southern Charm star look stunning on Monday’s Watch What Happens Live–I’ll refrain from commenting on all of the hair flipping, except for this sentence :), but she’s gaining support of fans who once just loved to hate her.

On the heels of this week’s Southern Charm premiere, the mother of two-year-old Kensie and five-month-old St. Julien with on-again-off-again-WAY-OFF-AGAIN boyfriend and old school scoundrel (I mean that in the most charming of ways) Thomas Ravenel is opening up about the duo’s tumultuous relationship. And this time, she’s not airing her dirty laundry on various forms of social media with snarky tweets and passive aggressive status updates. Instead, Kathryn is articulately discussing why she and T-Rav just don’t work. Is our favorite little strumpet maturing into a force to be reckoned with? I’d say so! 


Speaking to Bravo’s Daily Dish, Kathryn admits, “I know I’ve said that a lot, but we are definitely, officially, over,” joking, “Taylor Swift said it: ‘We’re never, ever, ever getting back together.'”

She shares that she gave up on the hope of her relationship with T-Rav working out after the birth of the couples’ second child. Kathryn recalls, “Well, it was a long time coming. I think what really motivated it was that I had Julien in November, and I had hoped that having two children, something would fall into place somehow, magically,” adding, “[Thomas] was talking about marriage in the hospital. He really wanted to make it work. And then he just flipped a switch, changed, and I don’t know. I kind of was just realizing my kids were more important than the way I feel about him romantically.”

While the pair isn’t in the best place, Kathryn is hoping that the two will be able to co-parent over time. She tells the site, “It’s a work in progress. I’m confident that we’ll reach a place in time where we can peacefully do that.”

The reality star also touches on her very public fights with T-Rav over social media, and she cites he’s quick to publicly air their dirty laundry. Kathryn asserts, “I will be honest. There’s been questionable behavior. I’m sure people see it on social media, every platform he blasts me on, so that’s not been fun, but you know, hopefully he’ll get over that.”

She also addresses one of her infamous Twitter rants about Thomas’ parenting skills (and lack of child support) after he posted a picture of himself with a mystery woman on Instagram on Valentine’s Day. Defending herself, Kathryn states, “I didn’t even see that [photo] before I posted [the tweets]. Someone sent that to me after I tweeted. I feel like I’ve been so lied about publicly by him that I don’t know, I just kind of caved, and I don’t even remember what I tweeted, but I tweeted something finally. I felt really stupid afterwards because I don’t like to stoop to his level, but it’s hard to be lied about, especially when it’s parenting and children.”

Of her allegations that T-Rav is still ducking his financial responsibilities, Kathryn continues, “I’ve gone without electricity. I’ve gone without heating and air. He doesn’t even ask me if I’m OK. He doesn’t care at all, but that’s fine. I’m gonna make it work on my own. I always have, and I’ll figure it out.”

Responding to Thomas’ claims in a Charleston City Paper interview that she won’t allow him to see their children, Kathryn says that he used to visit Kensie and Julien every two weeks. However, Kathryn confirms that she hasn’t let him spend time with the kids in over five month. She explains, “It’s not because I’m trying to be mean to him. It’s not motivated by my own personal hatred. It’s motivated by the simple fact that I don’t know if I feel comfortable trusting him alone with them right now, given his behavior and the company he has.”

To recap that interview, Thomas accused, “Here are the facts: I don’t have the right to see the kids. She won’t let me see them. I’m paying child support, even though I don’t have to. I’m not using the power of the purse. She’s using the power of the kids by not letting me see them, ruthlessly and to their detriment.”

Giving a statement to the Daily Dish immediately following the City Paper piece, Thomas reiterated, “She refuses to respond to my offer of $4,500 per month with my paying 80 percent of all medical and education costs and we’d split custody 50/50. This would be court ordered which means it would protect her in that if I didn’t pay I’d be thrown in jail. Also, she has rejected three mediation dates claiming that SHE would be out of town. She is also on her third attorney.”

Kathryn maintains that their passionate love story suffered from many more lows than highs, and she’s learning from their relationship and trying to better herself. She concludes, “Thomas is very troubled, so he’s a lot to handle. Whenever I was with him, it was always constantly placating him, constantly being his therapist. I gave everything to him, literally. I devoted myself completely to him, whether or not people believe that I loved him genuinely or not, I truly did, and I will stand by that until I die. In that same period, I forgot what I loved to do, what I think. I had to kind of always conform just so he wouldn’t have an outburst. I lost myself. I stopped painting, I stopped modeling, I stopped caring. Now that I’m not with him, I’m realizing things I love again.”

Is Kathryn growing up or is she just learning to keep her cool and bite her tongue in interviews? We’ve got the entire season ahead of us to make that call!


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