Tamra Judge‘s strained relationship with her ex-husband Simon Barney and her daughter Sidney Barney has been a big part of Tamra’s Real Housewives of Orange County journey. Both relationships have been a roller coaster and just when we thought things had turned a corner after Tamra was invited to attend Sidney’s graduation in June, Sidney speaks out and slams her mother’s actions.
Last month Tamra shared the photo above and revealed that she was in attendance for Sidney’s graduation. She captioned it, “So many things to be proud of this month. Our family has come a long way and I couldn’t be happier. Simon and I are so proud of these amazing, smart, funny,beautiful & crazy kids. Congrats Sidney your smile lightens up the room and your future is so bright. #gaveituptojesus #2017 #family.”
Well, Sidney is not happy about the post and she shared in a new public Facebook message that she is NOT on good terms with Tamra. And doesn’t appreciate Tamra’s efforts to make this part of her reality TV storyline.
Sidney shared a heartfelt message to viewers. She is not happy about Tamra’s continued use of their strained relationship as part of her RHOC storyline.
Sidney writes, “I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publically as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show. For starters, I did not move out when my parents got a divorce nor did I chose my fathers side in the divorce. My parents separated in 2010, I moved out of my mother’s house in 2013. Me leaving has nothing to do with the divorce, it has to do with the living conditions at my mothers house and the way she treated me and still treats me today. In regards to choosing sides, I actually chose my mothers side when my parents separated. This was due to the fact that my mother, the true parent alienator, would constantly talk negatively about my father in front of me and my siblings, putting us kids in the middle of my parents arguments. She even called us Simon or “mini Simon” when we did something bad or told us that we were “acting like your father”. This parent alienation caused me to resent my father and take her side. However as I got older I realized what she was doing along with other things that were toxic.”
She continues, “The reasons I left my mothers house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive. She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment. I have explained this to her numerous times in court, in therapy, and when we would meet up that the ONLY reason I am not living with her is because she continues to do the things that pushed me out of her house, like talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.”
And there’s more, “I went to therapy with my mother for 3 years. I was forced by the courts and my father to try to mend the relationship with my mother. Unfortunately my mother is unable to recognize that she is in the wrong and continues to put blame on everything else. If she would have put the effort into actually working on our relationship, instead of talking and crying about how much she “misses me” on the show and wishes things were different she wouldn’t have missed my entire high school career.”
On why she invited Tamra to her graduation ceremony and dinner, “My father has pushed me to have a relationship with my mother forcing me to go meet her in and out of therapy. He even forced me to let her come to my graduation because it was a milestone. When I told my mother that she could come I gave her a few conditions. All I asked was that she remains cordial with my father and my stepmom and to not post anything about my graduation, anywhere. Not even two weeks after I graduated she posted a photo of me and shared it with her one million followers knowing that it would get picked up by the press. The one thing I asked and have been asking for 4 years now has been to not talk about me because I don’t want to be in the spotlight. But Again breaking her promises as per usual, she puts herself, her fame, her reputation, and her bank account before me. If she really wanted a relationship she would keep her promises and recognize that it is no one elses fault but hers that I do not want her in my life.”
Sidney does not want to be in the spotlight, but wanted to speak out and set things straight with RHOC viewers, “Although I do not want to be in the public eye, I felt the need to clear these lies up and set the record straight in hopes that it will straighten my mom out so that she is held accountable and is forced to do the right thing. My mom has been portraying the innocent erased mother whose daughter was estranged from her due to divorce and an evil ex husband when in actuality she is the sole reason why I do not want her in my life and will not have a relationship with her. Instead of playing the innocent erased mother character, she could’ve been trying to actually fix our relationship and change her ways. However the character keeps her relevant, and is her only storyline. Why would she actually try to get me back? Without the estrangements she is no longer pitied and talked about and her fame and fortune go down the tubes.”
This isn’t the first time Sidney has been compelled to speak out. Two years ago she slammed Tamra as a liar and shared her disappointment in the RHOC reunion.
TELL US – WILL THESE TWO EVER REPAIR THEIR RELATIONSHIP? SHOULD TAMRA STOP PUBLICIZING THEIR UPS AND DOWN ON THE SHOW AND SOCIAL MEDIA?
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