Real Housewives Of Orange County is all about mommy issues this season, isn’t it? From the women having them with their own mothers (Kelly Dodd and Braunwyn Windham-Burke) to having them with their own children (Tamra Judge and Shannon Beador), to being questionable mothers themselves (almost everyone).
Last night Shannon and Braunwyn tried to navigate sending children to college, Tamra sent Ryan Vieth to counseling, and all that was like blah, blah, blah… yada, yada, yada because the truly horrific, scarring, awfulness was the true exposure of just what a terrible person Tamra is. So much so that I actually feel bad for Racist Ryan.
Tamra has just returned from this truly life-altering and earth-shattering vacation in Scottsdale, AZ where she learned a pivotal message about being the leader of the mean girls: you can never turn your back – not even for a day. Not even for a hike with your husband. In Tamra’s absence, she’s gotten a slew of angry text messages from Kelly, and Shannon is basically giving her the silent treatment.
Love her or hate her, Tamra Judge always finds a way to amplify the drama on Real Housewives of Orange County. Sometimes she’s directly involved, but mostly she finds a way to drum up issues between others by talking out both sides of her mouth. Tamra still has real drama of her own that we don’t really see play out on camera anymore (thankfully).
I just re-watched Season 5 of RHOC (highly recommend). For a refresher, that was the season where Tamra screamed, “I want a divorce!!!” at Simon Barney in the back of a limo. From that point on, the drama within Tamra’s family escalated to a point that no parent can ever prepare for. It has been well documented on the series that Tamra has been “erased” from her eldest daughter, Sidney’s life. Sidney Barney moved in with Simon shortly after the divorce, and has since been living away at college. Back in 2017, Tamra reunited with Sidney and Simon for Sidney’s high-school graduation. The reunion was short-lived because Tamra posted about it on her social media. Sidney has also shared that her issues with Tamra are personal, and that she is “disappointed” in Tamra’s behavior on RHOC.
Tamra Judge has not survived 12 seasons of the Real Housewives of Orange County by being the nice girl. Housewife fans know that being agreeable often results in contracts not being renewed. As we have seen over the years, being “nice” is not always second nature to conflict veteran Tamra. We have watched her be shady with Gretchen Rossi, mock Alexis Bellino and throw wine in Jeana Keough’s face. And allegedly running her mouth got Tamra slapped with a million dollar lawsuit courtesy of Jim Bellino.
More recently, Tamra gaslighted Shannon Beador by playing up to her hypochondria following a bizarre mallet gonging by Kelly Dodd. So, where does Tamra’s pot-stirring nature end? For some Housewives, distasteful behavior stops when the cameras are turned off. For Tamra, the lines are a little more blurred.
Tamra Judge used to be the “hottest housewife in the OC”. The Real Housewives of Orange County star had that title plucked away by new cast member, Braunwyn Windham-Burke. Braunwyn has approximately 19 children and a waist snatched by Jesus. She’s also younger than any of the Sanka-drinking Tres Abuelas. That leaves plenty of time for her to make mistakes that will eventually lead to multiple years of intensive therapy for her children.
Tamra knows about making mistakes as a mom. She is estranged from oldest daughter, Sidney. After Tamra’s divorce from Simon Barney, her relationship with Sidney all but disintegrated. Per the details of the divorce, the minor children were not allowed to be filmed for RHOC. Because Tamra’s son, Ryan Veith, from a previous marriage was over 18, viewers were already familiar with that branch of her family tree. Now Tamra is reflecting on all of her children, and the errors she has made in the past.
We all know that when Housewives get a divorce, there is bound to be lots of drama. Divorce settlements, custody issues and sordid allegations often accompany the splits. After a year or two, even the ugliest of divorces usually cool down and the ladies move on to other storylines.
Tamra Judge has been an exception to that rule. Since she and ex-husband Simon Barney split in 2010, the two have often had a contentious relationship. Tamra has not been shy about telling her side of the story, sometimes on the Real Housewives of Orange County–which has probably add fuel to the fire. Now, according to Tamra, things are finally looking up in the relationship between she and her ex.
It seems like Tamra Judge and Simon Barney were married a whole lifetime ago. When Tamra first joined Real Housewives of Orange County, she and Simon were all about the PDA. Their biggest issue was Simon’s tension with Ryan Vieth, Tamra’s oldest son from a previous marriage.
Then we saw Simon, Tamra, and Vicki Gunvalson have a heated discussion at one of the season finale parties. In a limo on the way home, Tamra told him they were getting a divorce and that was that. Well, not really. Simon didn’t sign off to let their kids film RHOC. Their son Spencer Barney only reappeared when he turned eighteen and was able to sign his own paperwork. Their daughter Sidney Barney moved out of Tamra’s house to live with Simon full-time. And, of course, there is that infamous longstanding feud between Tamra and Sidney. All Sidney wants is for Tamra to stop talking about her on the show. However, Tamra can’t help talking about how she can’t talk about Sidney on the show, which constitutes talking about Sidney on the show, obviously. The whole thing could just be so simple, but it isn’t. Were the RHOC cameras rolling when Tamra and Simon reunited with their daughter for a school dance? Probably not, but that would have been very interesting.
Real Housewives of Orange County has had more than its share of divorces amongst cast members. Some of the splits have been relatively low drama-like the Gina/Jeanas-Gina Kirschenheiter and Jeana Keough. Other un-couplings have occurred after decades-long marriages fell apart-like the unions of Lynne Curtin and Vicki Gunvalson.
And a few breakups have been ugly-like those of OC besties Shannon Beador and Tamra Judge. Tamra probably gets the “award” for the longest standing drama following a breakup, however. Since she and ex-hubby Simon Barney parted ways in 2010, they have engaged in public battles over parenting and child custody. Now, Tamra is alleging that her youngest daughter Sophia wants to film on the show, but Simon won’t allow it.
While Tamra Judge has been vacationing in Aruba, her daughter Sidney hopped on Facebook to blast Tamra’s mothering and lashed out at the Real Housewives Of Orange County star for putting reality TV before their family.
Sidney has since deleted the excoriating post (thank you Jesus it’s logged for all posterity on the internet!), however before it was removed Tamra rampaged through the comment thread to defend herself and act like Saint Holier Than Thou Of The Jesus Barbies. You can read Sidney’s full statement here.