Tamra Barney Divorce

The Real Housewives of Orange County’s self-proclaimed “hottest Housewife,” Tamra Barney, has gone from being happily married to newly single, as her husband of 11 years — Simon Barney recently filed for divorce, citing infidelity and verbal abuse.

“I’ve never cheated on him, so I don’t exactly know what he means by that,” said Tamra, 42, in a new interview with iVillage. “And then verbal abuse. I’m so verbally abusing him in my head right now.”

Despite her marital drama and very public divorce, Tamra continues to stay positive. “I’m sure I’m going to go through many ups and downs with emotions, but right now I feel good,” she says. And what about dating in her near future? “There will be a time that I date, but right now I’m just focusing on my kids and trying to get settled in my new apartment and just waiting to see what happens next,” she says.

When asked about her on-and-off arch nemesis and costar, Gretchen Rossi, Tamra had the following to say, “I think so much has been said between the two of us that I don’t think we’ll ever be best friends, but we can be cordial to each other in social environments,” says Tamra, joking, “You know I don’t call her up and ask her, ‘Hey how you doing? You and Slade want to come over?'”

In another interview with UsWeekly, Tamra reveals she has some regrets when it comes to her family and how she handled things. Mostly over some of the things she said on the show. Tamra says, “When it comes to the family . . . [there are] maybe some thing I shouldn’t have said.”

Tamra Barney of the Real Housewives of Orange County will be making a special appearance on Bravo’s talkshow – Watch What Happens – tonight to discuss her split and impending divorce from hubby of 11 years, Simon Barney.

Simon, who took to his blog last week to shed some light on the couple’s marital issues, however has a stern warning for the network. “This is a private matter and should be discussed in a court of law, not on a reality show,” said Simon. “My entire family and especially my children have paid a very dear price for the success of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County. If they choose to exploit my family at this difficult time, it would be disgusting.”

Tamra moved out of the couple’s house and into a two-bedroom apartment, leading Simon to file for divorce days later much to Tamra’s surprise according to sources. Simon has accused Tamra of being “verbally abusive and committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity.” Tamra has denied the accusations.

Tamra’s “arch nemesis” & costar Gretchen Rossi claims she was surprised to hear about the couple’s split. Here’s what Gretchen had to say about the Barney’s split on her blog –

“Well, the next subject is very interesting to me because I have a lot of questions when it comes to Tamra and Simon’s talk outside. Not because I care to talk about them, but because they care to talk about me. First, if what is being written in the press today is true about Simon filing for divorce then I am so very sad that Tamra and Simon could not work out their differences for their children’s sake. There were some pretty harsh accusations being made on Simon’s part about Tamra in those papers. I bring this up because I think in tonight’s episode when Simon is talking about how happy they are, it is obvious that Tamra does not feel the same way. I thought “poor guy he has no idea.” Then to hear Tamra say she “would leave him if it was just the two of them,” WOW! That was a reprehensible remark if you ask me, I would be so devastated if I heard my spouse say that about me on national TV. We never truly know what goes on behind closed doors now do we though. For a very long time now I have heard lots of things about their marriage and I have chosen to stay out of it and not comment because it was none of my business. The only thing I knew for sure was that things were a little off because I was CC’d on an e-mail last January from Simon to Tamra titled “Your BS and Lies.” It definitely made me question if their marriage was truly as solid as they tried to portray at times. No marriage is perfect but those were some pretty tough words to e-mail a spouse. I do believe that Simon loved Tamra almost to a fault and he tried to protect her, even from herself at times. From what I could see she would open her mouth about things without having all the facts and he would have to be behind her picking up the pieces. That to me is a man who stands by his woman, even when he knew she was wrong. Good on him for taking loyalty seriously.

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