I admit I often find Kenya Moore frustrating, but I sincerely enjoyed seeing her communicate with her father Ronald. There was a rawness to Kenya in those scenes and it explained, for me, a lot of what makes Kenya tic, errrrr… twirl.
Kenya admits confronting her father with the past was “very difficult,” but it was very necessary.”We both needed closure.”
The results were cathartic. “My father is a lot of things, but he has never been emotional around me. He is prideful, strong-willed, and stubborn as hell. I am my father’s daughter. I was shocked to see tears come from his eyes,” shares the Real Housewives Of Atlanta star.
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In a desire to understand herself, Kenya realized she “needed resolution” from her father concerning their complicated past. “…I had to really connect with him and be honest about the pain I have caused him,” writes Kenya in her Bravo blog.
“I could never understand why I’ve had so many ups and downs with my father. Whenever he had become hurt, he masked it with anger and stormed off and I would not hear from him for months, sometimes years,” recalls Kenya. But Kenya acknowledges accepts that because Ronald was 15 when she was born “and a baby having a baby,” he simply wasn’t prepared for the challenges of fatherhood.
“I have always known he has loved me, but I didn’t think he has always shown it in the proper way especially when I was a teenager and needed him the most,” admits Kenya. “Even now as a woman in my forties, I still need my father.”
“It still breaks my heart to know we spent more than half my life at odds unnecessarily hurting each other,” says Kenya. “But after having our heart to heart, I realize how proud I am of him. I’m thankful that we have grown together. He is not perfect, but he is my family and the only father I have.”
“I know he has always wanted me, unlike my mother,” states Kenya.
Kenya also believes her unresolved “deep emotional family issues” contributed her her poor dating choices and “choosing the wrong men.”
“I have had some amazing long-term relationships filled with love. However, I have broken up with the majority of those men for reasons I’m discovering now,” shares Kenya. “I’ve pulled the cart before the horse in the past, and I am breaking the cycle by working on myself first and prior to any serious relationship.”
Now that Kenya has started the healing process with her father, it’s time to make the same entreaty with her mother. “Next week we travel to Detroit together and I finally confront my mother with the support of my Dad. I would not have it any other way,” Kenya prepares us. “This is my time and my life and thank God I have the strength and support of my Daddy during my journey.”
I wish Kenya the best of luck. I cannot imagine my mother turning her back on me and I applaud her getting serious about confronting her challenging past. I hope it leads to fulfilling relationships in the future and her achieving her own dream of marriage and a family. And I say this completely without shade.
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