Amber Marchese On Her First Season On RHONJ: “I Felt Like I Was Being Hazed”

RHONJ season finale Amber Marchese

Real Housewives of New Jersey scholar Amber Marchese changed it up for her last essay of the season: short and sweet. Yeah, that’s a lie, but isn’t it a nice thought? Amber’s blog is more of the same ‘blah, Dina Manzo sucks, The Cancer, Jim Marchese is a Spartan Warrior, The Cancer, Bobby Ciasulli is a bad friend, blah’ endless nonsense she treated us to all season.

“We made it Housewife friends!” cheered Amber. “As it was my rookie season, I felt like I was being hazed in a sorority, but as hard as it was, I made it!”

“I learned so much about how strong I am as a person and some areas that I can work on. I learned that I really do have a ‘no surrender, never retreat’ mentality. I will go to bat with anyone, at any time, and will defend myself and my family at all cost. I also witnessed the undying love that my husband has for me and his family. He was not going to let anyone hurt me and will unleash hell if someone tries. He is truly my modern day Spartan warrior.”


Amber talked about her battle with The Cancer, next, because of course. She patted herself on the back for trimming her hair and donating it to charity. I guess, if Jim is 5’8″, then that was 10″. Rulers must be scaled differently in the Marchese household. Also, Amber credited God for putting her on RHONJ at just the right time in her life.

“I am so blessed to have shared my experience and struggles with breast cancer – the timing of my five year mark, the photo shoot, and growing my hair for five years then cutting it for charity – it was nothing short of a miracle that the Bravo was able to catch that all. It was just meant to be and God was truly working his wonders. Cutting my hair was completely symbolic for me, since cancer no longer defines me. I will never forget, however the pain, fear, and anxiety is in my rear view mirror now. I can sometimes look back to remind myself where I came from, but it in no way defines my future. It is my promise to all of you, I will never take that for granted, especially knowing that there are thousands struggling with cancer every day.”

Amber called out Teresa Aprea and Nicole Napolitano for waiting until the Project Ladybug event to confront Teresa Giudice about The Rumor. She also used way too many words to explain why she didn’t bring her kids. I’ll spare you. Long story short, the twins cannot be trusted because they pulled Amber’s hair that one time at fireman camp.

“I am not quite sure why the twins make it a point to confront others in front of large crowds. As Teresa said, they had two weeks to call her and speak to her about what Victoria Gotti had said to us. If they had an issue or wanted an apology, so be it, but what ever happened to being a civilized human being and picking up the phone to call? They did the same thing to me. Two weeks went by without any phone call from them. In fact, they never returned any of my phone calls or texts! They decided to make a scene in front of an entire party. Difference is, this was at a charity event with children in ear shot.”

Dina really pissed off Amber when she failed to throw the twins out when they started ish with Teresa.

Dina was brazen enough to kick Jim and me out of the Florida home for less of an offense, why wasn’t Dina kicking the twins out because they were making a scene at her own charity function for children?! Can we say double standard? Where were her ‘heads rolling’ that she claimed would happen if someone started anything at a Ladybug event?”

Amber went on to call out Dina‘s “unwarranted vemon” towards poor, innocent Jim. Apparently, Jim came up with the idea for the fashion show and worked tirelessly to secure a venue for the event, but Dina ignored his efforts.

“The venue was ultimately not chosen, but Jim had still worked hard to give Dina an option for the event. Instead she chooses to focus on Jim’s comment about her IQ after she interrogated him at an extremely inappropriate, charged moment right after his wife was attacked. Despite her inappropriateness, Jim still ended up apologizing to her. In my opinion she should have apologized to him for being so glaringly insensitive.”

Amber schooled us, the viewers, on how to treat reality TV stars.

“It may seem as if my perspective is harsh for an end of season blog, LOL! But it is what I was feeling at the time. I owe it to you all to give you my honest interpretation of it. However, at the end of the season, I came out having a certain amount of respect for all of these ladies.”

“Being on a reality show is hard; it pushes us to our limits and it is nothing short of psychological warfare. I truly hope you will support all of us, equally. Teams are good, and appreciated; however, keep the hate towards other Housewives out of it. Perspective are OK, different points of view are what make the world go round, however, when your perspective rises to a level of cruelty, it takes the fun out of our jobs. Allow us to be ourselves, with the good moments and even the moments when we could have handled ourselves a little better. At the end of the day, the Housewives are girlfriends that have strong personalities and disagreements – we love, we hate, and we make up. That’s life.” 

Amber concluded, “I have would like to thank: Denee Lockhart, Amy Malkoff, J. Vincent Jewelers, Cate Scaglione Photography, Castle Couture, Action Media Productions, Elinet Cakes, Christine’s Restaurant, Historical Names, East Coast Stars, Zaboyon, Greenhouse Flowers, Johnny Donavan PR, Anthony Palmieri stylist, Tony Bowls evening wear, and finally, my husband Jim and my mom, Pamula Aguero.”

What?!? Did I miss the scene where Amber won an Emmy? I can’t with her!


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