Last night’s episode of 90 Day Fiance Before The 90 Days, was like a gift from the reality TV gods. Between the desperation, delusion, and the secrets, I was on the edge of my seat. I often wonder if these people have no relationship/people experience. Why do they do these stupid things and believe that they will get positive results? But I am starting to realize that trying to compare their actions with rational people is what is actually crazy.
Tim makes a stupid decision. Benjamin negotiates a bride price for Akinyi. Darcey Silva confides in Tom Brooks’ sister. Angela Deem tries to make amends with Michael Ilesanmi‘s friends. Rebecca reveals shocking news to Zied. Get ready to break down the crazy!
TIMOTHY, 38 (NORTH CAROLINA) AND JENIFFER, 25 (COLOMBIA)
Timothy calls his ex-Veronica to get advice on whether he should propose to Jeniffer. Once again, she questions whether they have had sex, which is very odd to me. Instead of using the lack of sex as a reason Timothy should proceed with caution, she could have just mentioned the fact they have been fighting the entire trip.
He becomes frustrated that Veronica doesn’t automatically tell him what he wants to hear and ends the call. He wants his relationship with Jeniffer to move to the next level or end. Slow down, you have known this woman for two seconds!
Timothy is still mulling over the idea of proposing to Jeniffer. The only catch is that the ring he intends to use is actually a hand me down from Veronica. Hell no! Who wants a ring from a previous engagement? It is a slap in the face.
Timothy surprises Jeniffer with a beautiful picnic to discuss their relationship. She questions why he doesn’t want to have sex with her. She even confesses that she questioned his sexuality. Regardless, Jeniffer has decided to overlook it because the last couple of days have been nice. Or maybe she is overlooking it because she thinks he is rich. Sigh! Timothy takes Jeniffer aside and presents her with the used ring. She is shocked when he adds that it’s only a promise ring. I can’t wait to see her face when she finds out who that ring previously belonged to Veronica.
Jeniffer wakes up disappointed by yet another sexless night. Timothy explains he was tired, but I am not buying it. Instead of morning sex, Timothy opts for a spa day. While in the hot tub, she asks where he bought the ring. Timothy begins stuttering that he originally purchased it for Veronica, but she gave it back, so he could give it to Jeniffer. Jeniffer is extremely offended and takes off the ring. She doesn’t want Veronica’s “trash”. Jeniffer, RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! There is something very odd about Timothy.
DARCEY, 44 (CONNECTICUT) AND TOM, 39 (UNITED KINGDOM)
Darcey and Tom go salsa dancing with his sister, Emma, and her partner. By the way Darcey is dressed, I thought they were attending a Halloween party. Why am I surprised? Things become cringy when Tom dances and spins his sister while she looks at him with wild eyes and horrible makeup. I will admit that they both have some moves.
Next is Darcey’s turn. As I watch them both attempt to be sexy, I am embarrassed for them. Surprisingly, Tom is actually a good dancer. But he can’t be bothered to dance with Darcey for more than one song because she isn’t a seasoned dancer. The green-eyed monster creeps in as Darcey watches her man dance with multiple women. Uh oh, I feel a meltdown coming on.
Emma takes Darcey aside to talk before she pounces on one of Tom’s dance partners. Emma warns that Tom is a free spirit that can’t be controlled. Of course, Darcey can’t even control her own emotions let alone a man. But she begins to “let her slip show,” as my grandmother would say. Even Emma can see Darcey’s jealous and insecure tendencies. She advises that she is going to ruin her relationship if it continues.
Little does Emma know, these breakdowns are a daily occurrence. Emma forces Darcey to just ask Tom if they are exclusive. He makes her day when he agrees that they are exclusive and the dancing means nothing. Oh, Darcey… this damsel in distress act is getting old…much like you. Cut the crap and start acting like a normal adult.
BENJAMIN, 33 (PHOENIX, AZ) and AKINYI, 25 (KENYA)
After crying about being rushed into a marriage, Benjamin is still trying to decide his fate. Akinyi joins him and is devastated to hear he is having second thoughts. He becomes emotional as he explains his fears. His number one concern is if Akinyi is ready to become a stepmother and a wife. Akinyi cries at the notion that he isn’t 110% sure of her. Girl… just wait until you come to America and see his life and apartment, you will really cry.
It’s the day of the bride price ceremony and Benjamin is nervous he doesn’t have enough money to honor the family. When Akinyi asks how much he intends to offer, he states 80,000 schillings, which is roughly $800 American dollars. In a post-interview, Akinyi states that the amount is insulting. Even men who aren’t well off in Kenya, offer $3,000 dollars.
I don’t know what the hell Benjamin is thinking. Did he not do any research? He can’t honestly believe $800 dollars would be an acceptable bride price. Before the ceremony, Benjamin proposes to Akinyi with a ring that is too small. Akinyi’s reaction is strange. She doesn’t cry or seem extremely happy. Maybe she is starting to realize her boyfriend isn’t a rich American.
Benjamin and Akinyi arrive in matching outfits for the bride price ceremony. He is extremely nervous that he doesn’t have enough money. The couple has to part ways until the negotiations are over. In this case, we don’t know if they will ever see each other again when he offers that $800. Benjamin is immediately reprimanded for his tardiness. One family member has already left. Benjamin looks like he is about to have a heart attack as he offers the groceries and the ceremony begins.
AVERY, 19 (OHIO) and OMAR, 24 (SYRIA)
Avery is forced to say goodbye to her husband, Omar, after 10 days in Lebanon. She is heartbroken thinking about leaving him. She vows to apply for a K1 Visa upon her return home. Just last week, she was accusing him of using her when he didn’t seem sad. Now she is madly in love again and can’t imagine being without Omar. Avery has a breakdown as she waits to get on her plane.
Avery’s mother and stepfather meet their daughter at the airport. On the ride home, they discuss her plan to move to Syria. Her parents try to convince her she won’t be happy in a war-torn country. She is completely unmoved by their pleas and believes she will be happy wherever her husband will is. Hopefully, she will repeat that sentiment in her head when she is Syria until she believes it.
REBECCA, 47 (GEORGIA) AND ZIED, 26 (TUNISIA)
Zied takes Rebecca to ride ATVs. Afterward, they share loving words in the desert. Zied even comments that he feels she is perfect. Obviously, this is the calm before the storm. I am literally sitting on the edge of my seat waiting for her to drop this bomb. Rebecca finally admits that she is still married.
Zied is shocked and extremely upset to find out he has been deceived. He storms away from her to process what he has just learned. When she comes out to speak with him, he doesn’t even want to look at her. He jumps on an ATV and leaves a stunned Rebecca alone. What did she expect when she has revealed multiple lies throughout the trip?
ANGELA, 53 (HAZLEHURST, GA) AND MICHAEL, 29 (NIGERIA)
It’s the day after Angela went off on Michael’s friends, who she affectionately calls “the goofballs”. Michael expresses his disappointment in her behavior with his friends. She admits she was still upset that Michael went out with his friends instead of listening to her whine when she was sick. For some reason, this is his friends’ fault.
As she says her crazy thoughts out loud, she begins to realize that her anger is misplaced. She asks Michael to call his friends so she can apologize for how she acted. Ummm… if I were his friends I would refuse to go anywhere near this raving lunatic. I probably wouldn’t even speak to Michael anymore after allowing his fiancée to disrespect his friends in that manner.
Michael’s friend Bode agrees to mediate the meeting with everyone. Angela makes it clear she is only apologizing for how she acted, but she has no desire to be friends. Ummm…okay, that was a horrible start. Michael reprimands his friends for talking back to his fiancée. He claims he would never disrespect their women if the situation was reversed.
The friends only apologize to keep the peace. These are some good friends. I would have probably told Angela to go straight to hell. Angela cries because she feels Michael’s friends should be like family to her. She also is worried that because she isn’t Nigerian and is older they may convince him to leave her. I’m sorry, but how are any of those things Michael’s friends’ fault? Chile, please! Angela seems to get crazier by the minute. She wants full control and ownership over Michael. It’s not only pathetic, but it’s also scary. Michael, if you need safe haven away from Angela touch a finger to the tip of your nose.
TELL US- WHAT DID YOU THINK OF THE USED RING TIMOTHY GAVE JENIFFER? DO YOU THINK DARCEY AND TOM’S RELATIONSHIP WILL WORK? WOULD YOU HAVE APOLOGIZED IF YOU WERE MICHAEL’S FRIENDS? DO YOU THINK REBECCA WILL LOSE ZIED BECAUSE OF HER LIES?
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