Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz are both trying to move ahead after their breakup. Since it was announced, the Vanderpump Rules stars have opened up about some of the details. Katie initiated the split, and admitted that it had been building for months. But she knew telling him would be hard. She previously stated,“I felt disconnected. I felt like I was drifting away further and further away. I felt like I was drifting and I couldn’t stop it. It was the hardest hardest thing to do. The hardest thing to tell him, because I knew it was gonna crush him.”
For his part, Tom blamed himself for the split. He even continued to wear his wedding right after Katie filed for divorce. He also claimed, “That’s all on me” of the breakup. But the two seem to be be amicable, even posting pics of having drinks together. Regardless, it doesn’t look like a reconciliation is on the table.
As reported by Us Weekly, Katie took to the podcast We Met At Acme to explain some of the “red flags” in their relationship. She even talked about the future of dating again. Katie started confessed that when they were dating, one of the red flags was being with someone “adverse to wanting to commit to you.” She said, “I understand that when someone is younger and [when] they’re still figuring themselves out, they’re still figuring life out. But I think when somebody is 30, I don’t think it’s too much — and especially when you’ve been together for a long time.”
Katie then revealed that in their early struggles as a couple, he didn’t have her back. Which viewers say too many times on VPR. She went on, “That also came through with him always kind of having other people’s backs and not having my own back. He wasn’t necessarily on my team in a lot of ways and it’s fine. I didn’t need to be right about everything, but I didn’t need to be alone in everything. He kind of always tended to take his buddy’s side or anyone else’s side.” Katie added, “That was a common thread throughout the relationship that was frustrating to me, but I kind of was just like, ‘Well, is this who he is? I don’t really want to change necessarily the fiber of his being.’ But I also ultimately realized, I don’t know if I necessarily want to do this the rest of my life.”
As for what’s next, Katie discussed what dating might be like for her. And how she would react to Tom dating someone else. Said Katie, “You would think after being with someone for 12 years and all this that you would be not ready for that, but I feel like I am.” She also noted that since they are still living together in their house, it does present some “obstacles.” Katie continued, “It’s a different world out there. So I’m like, ‘What do you even do?’ I feel like I’m totally out of my element. When I met Tom, dating apps weren’t even around then. I used to just meet people the old-fashioned way.”
When it comes to what she’s looking for in her next partner, she wants someone who “isn’t worried about what every single person in the room thinks and how they’re feeling. And “someone who’s gonna prioritize me and support my feelings and my emotions, someone who doesn’t prioritize, you know, partying.” In addition, she’s looking for someone who wants to start a family too.
Eventually, she knows Tom will start dating again, but she’s not concerned about how she will handle it. Katie said, “It would be, like, weird, but I don’t think I’d go crazy. I don’t think I would feel hurt. I don’t think I would feel betrayed,” she said. “I think as long as she wasn’t a psycho or, like, as long as she was a good person that was going to be nice. I mean, I can’t say that I would be upset.”
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