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lisa vanderpump on forgiveness, trust, and friendship

Lisa Vanderpump deos not hold grudges – she holds you at arm’s length until you are reduced to begging and then even still she may or may not less you pick up Giggy’s poop. In the case of Brandi Glanville, Lisa clarifies that no amount of begging is going to undo what’s been done, but she did try to move forward, but Lisa wants to clear up some mistruths, misunderstandings, and flat-out lies as well! 

First of all, Lisa agreed explains she decided to attend Brandi’s housewarming for the sake of the group – and to beat them at their own game. It worked. “I decided to go to the party as I knew–and from seeing this footage of the group–that if I didn’t, I would be the topic of conversation, so arriving with a bottle of champagne stops it in its tracks.”

“Now the conversation with Brandi’s parents I thought was sweet–the way they were obviously aware that our relationship was no longer a positive one. Her mother, who I had invited to join us at dinner previously, a sweet woman, gently tried to explain how Brandi works, hurting feelings and then apologizing,” Lisa continues. “It’s just unfortunate at this time. I am not interested. The friendship was not deep enough to weather that kind of storm.” O-U-C-H. 

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“When I first met Brandi and she was desperate to join the group of women, nobody but me embraced her,” Lisa reminds us. “She was worried about her financial situation, now regardless of what has transpired between us, I am happy for her to have better opportunities for her and her boys.” 

Now onto the idea, put forth by Kyle Richards, that Lisa holds grudges – Lisa disputes this emphatically, and says she is just no one’s fool. “I would say contrary to the little bitchy comments about holding a grudge. I believe if someone truly hurts you, unintentionally of course, you can forgive them, but if somebody calculatedly tries everything In their power to destroy your reputation, I would say forgiveness is not an option.”

“One would be foolish to embrace them into your life again. It is not a grudge,” Lisa clarifies. “It is knowledge, as long as you don’t hold onto the anger, which would breed bitterness, and that has no place in your life. That is why I can interact, even playfully tease. There is nothing at stake anymore. Hindsight is 20/20, but foresight is better. Forewarned is forearmed.”

Moving onto the charity tea at PUMP, Lisa expresses frustration with both Brandi and Yolanda Foster. “In regard to Brandi’s generous offer at my clothing event as she abused my beautiful olive tree, was supposed to shock, but no it was harmless,” Lisa says. “Words are just that. It didn’t offend me, but as usual, it was a classless example of somebody trying to garner attention.” Pretty much! Another Boozdi Blunder

Yolanda, on the other hand, should know better! “Yolanda mentions yet again that I failed to invite her to another important event in my life, the opening of PUMP, and that if we were friends, I would’ve done so. Correct,” Lisa states. “I would never question why I was not invited somewhere. I wouldn’t want to go to a party that I wasn’t invited to.” Right – Entry Level Manners Policing, Yo! 

“I hadn’t seen any of these women, and I am sure since Puerto Rico and the final party, there had been many events,” Lisa acknowledges. “I had not heard from them, and I was fine about that.” In her own blog Kyle, specifies that watching these beginning moments are “frustrating and hurtful, because Lisa V. and I are in a good place now. That’s what is difficult about going back six months in time.” 

And now Lisa returns the favor with a little friendship advice to the master of manners and behavior, YoFrigidaire.”Some people dwell on the negative, especially when they are looking for something. I would be happier if after what has gone down between us all, some would just say, ‘Well I am glad we are here now, and yes, I can see how hard you must have worked to open this place. I now understand why last year maybe you couldn’t make some events…’ Now that would be a move in the right direction.” 

Lisa adds that although she is very close with Mohammad Hadid and his children with Yolanda, she and Yo have never developed that same closeness. “Yes, love is a big word, and that hurt to see that. I don’t use it flippantly. I love Mohammed and Yolanda’s children. Of that, I am sure. Many,many weekends and lunches with them and Mohamed have created that bond. I have always been hopeful that Yolanda would be included in that equation.”

Lisa explains that furthermore, everyone accuses her of parading Scheana around to intentionally destroy Brandi’s life, so why would they want to attend the opening of PUMP, which was filmed for Lisa’s other show! “At that time, to invite all those women could not have been furthest from my mind. Also the whole Vanderpump Rules group would be there, which, as you know, Scheana was part of, bearing in mind that she was working for me for years before I was friends with Brandi, before anyone was aware that there was a connection. So knowing that, even if I was closer to any of them, I would not put myself in that position again.”

Finally Lisa dismantles Brandi’s “ludicrous” accusation that Scheana is one of Lisa’s best friends and intentionally being used to torture Brandi. Lisa feels the way Brandi set up the story to Lisa Rinna and Eileen Davidson, was intentional to continue to paint her as manipulative and that Brandi had reason for the way she behaved towards Lisa last season.

“I understand where they are going with it,” Lisa warns. “Not patronizing anybody, but I move in different social circles and don’t need to be best friends with somebody 30 years younger than me. She is one of my employees for six years, who is close with my daughter, but knowing her, she is a lovely young woman who made a mistake, but categorically not my best friend.”

“I appreciated the fact that Lisa and Eileen were kind enough not to be dragged into the negativity. I have enjoyed getting to know Eileen for sure,” Lisa concludes. “I do feel there is a divide between women who are fulfilled and happy in their lives, stimulated by their careers or the demands of motherhood and are not searching for something negative. That is a woman I bond with for sure.”

SHADE – more shade than a 100-year-old imported olive tree in the garden of PUMP – even one that is missing some branches!

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